SS10's drama is killing me
So SS10 was playing video games (huge surprise) and started freaking out because he couldn't get through some part of it. DH told him to turn it off because it was becoming way too important to him (which I agree with) and he had a total tantrum/meltdown. Said that everything is too hard and he is so frustrated with everything in his life and everyone yells at him for no reason all the time, and my sons fighting with each other makes him so stressed (even though they haven't been fighting at all for weeks) and it's so hot in the house and no, changing out of his jeans and long sleeved shirt will NOT HELP and there are just SO MANY THINGS IN HIS LIFE THAT SUCK.
Sigh.
I understand that being a 10yo boy probably does suck. But when you are on the floor crying and screaming and there are people asking you what they can do to help you and all you can say is that everything sucks and no one can help - no one wants to help you. Seriously, everything you say to this kid is wrong, because he knows everything and you are an idiot. Hungry? Eat something. No, then my stomach will hurt. Headache? Take some tylenol and maybe stop playing the video games for a minute. No, I need the video games and I don't like tylenol. Stayed up until 3am and now you're tired? Take a nap. No, a nap will make me more tired.
Bigger sigh. I give up. Be miserable.
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First why is anyone asking
First why is anyone asking this kid what he needs and how can I help you? Really? This is a KID! tell him to go to his room till he can act like a normal little boy! I had a child therapist tell me this one time. When the child acts like that make them go to their room till you can;t hear them anymore then check on them and ask if they are done, if they say yes tell them to scream one more time to make sure, when they do that make them do it again just to make sure, then they can come out. No toys or anything, they have to sit on their bed with the door shut and if they miss a meal take it to them, it is their choice if they eat. I did this with my ds and I only had to do it 3 times before he stopped that crap!
DH was asking him to talk to
DH was asking him to talk to him because SS has been acting like a maniac lately, and that's what started it all. I do try to get him to go to his room and chill out if he is throwing a fit (which he is way too old for IMO) but he does the same thing...screams until he is hoarse that he is "different from others and can't be treated this way." Direct quote. Same goes for me asking him to turn off his TV when he's doing his homework, he insists that he needs it on because he is "different." I would LOVE to tell him that he's not different, he's just spoiled, but I really don't feel it's my place. His father and I aren't even married yet, we've been living together for a year and a half and are engaged. It's just so frustrating.
He has anger issues in that
He has anger issues in that he has no idea what to do when he's mad. He just bottles it up and then it comes out at some random inappropriate moment, like yesterday. Then it all comes pouring out in a jumble. I kinda feel bad for him since I bottle my stuff up too, but not to the extent that I'm going to have a major meltdown because I don't know where all the clean socks are. (It happened. They were in a basket next to his bed.) His BM is no help, she's a total drama queen too. At least he comes by it honestly.
I wouldn't care if I was just
I wouldn't care if I was just the girlfriend I'd be telling my bf that if he didn't get this under control I would be gone! I have done it before and will do it again. I would also tell him that if my kids can;t act that way then neither can his and not one kid will be treated different then the other period! That wold not fly with me! I am just a different person than some I guess b/c I will speak my mind and let my man know what I will accept and not accept! I wouldn't even have let it gone that long. You only let others treat you that way if you allow it, same goes with kids they do what they are allowed to do!