Milomom you have SAVED me
"Not my kids, not my problem." by Milomom
I LOVE this saying and have said to myself throughout the day and it IS helping. Thanks so much! Anyone agree this does help?
Thanks Milomom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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YES!!!!! It does help! Thank
YES!!!!! It does help! Thank you Milomom!!!
Well yes, up to a point. I
Well yes, up to a point. I disengaged years ago, but I am still affected by the behaviour of my SDs mainly when they stay with us every other weekend. The fact that they are in my house affecting my wellbeing IS my problem, as much as I wish it weren't. Also from time to time they have a profound negative effect on my DH's wellbeing as well, and because I love him, this affects me too. Some people can let it wash over them, I'm sure. Maybe I need a thicker skin.
Has worked for me for the
Has worked for me for the last two years since finding the site. She didn't invent it, it was someone else that is no longer here.
I just repeat it everytime, SS does something, that I know I wouldn't allow and DH just looks the other way. Like C's.....
HOw about "Fs" all the way
HOw about "Fs" all the way through from 2nd grade through 6th in the case of VD (SD 12 1/2) or 5th grade all the way through 9th in the case of Brainiac (SS 14 1/2)
GOD KNOWS what Prince Hygiene's grades are (SS 8 1/2) GG (biodad) has never bothered to find out and I stopped writing on his behalf for their grades as it wasn't appreciated by either the Behemoth (CPS worker BM) or GG. I was told to "butt out"
"not my kid, not my problem"
(that is until GG needs a bail bond for one of them and he only brings home $200 a week after the Behemoth takes her weekly $210 cut in CS)
Yep they're quite acceptable
Yep they're quite acceptable in GG/Behemoth's household as well.
After all, they're "late bloomers"
The Behemoth (who works as a CPS worker) as informed Brainiac SS 14 1/2 that he needn't study any courses or get good grades b/c he's destined to be the next American Idol rock star.
(I kid you not ladies and gentlemen)
Dang. Maybe my expectations
Dang. Maybe my expectations are too high. Our school district still uses pluses and minuses with grades (like B+, A-, etc.). I have a talk with mine whenever I see a B- b/c that's bordering on a C, and to me, that isn't acceptable.
Yes it does help!
Yes it does help!
I was made out to be this
I was made out to be this evil parent because I expected A's out of my child. His test scores are always off the charts so of course I expect them. Until I moved in here, I had no idea that that could be wrong parenting.
Funny thing is SS's scores are comparable to my son. It is all about what you expect out of a child. No one expects anything, no one gets anything.
Now after years of being told it was not my kid so don't worry about it, his both get c's and D's. No one seems to care. DH tries but, not hard enough.
My son is in all honor and AP classes and had his first B and was upset about it. More than I was. So yes, I may be a strict parent, but my kid will go on to be a doctor and DH's will be mooching off us. I can foresee my own future....:-)
Yes - Not my kid, not my problem. Repeat after me....
Ha. Feel the same way. 2 F's,
Ha. Feel the same way. 2 F's, 3 D's, NO PUNISHMENT for the precious SD. Are you kidding me??? ugh. She is going to be living off of us for ever. I am glad my son has so much support from my family and hopefully all of our expectations will rub off on him. We will see.........