BM's refrain: "You should do all that you would have done for them if we were still married"
There are the EXACT texts from BM because she refused to pay for SS's prescription, and at the time DH didn't have time to call to do it. Turned out he couldn't call to do it anyway.
"Don't fukin pay nuthin ur a piss poor excuse of a father to SS & SD, It's like they are bastards now & even they feel it."
"Broke ass nigga havin more kids..."
"Fuck you. I feel so awful for my children... that's what they've become bastards... you should do all that you would have done for them if we were still married, your a fake ass joke and Im so sick of it for them... when I watched you hug ur son the other night i knew what a joke u are. Keep your fucking money for your "new" kids."
Yup, before they were divorced she refused to work, so he paid for everything. Now, even though the divorce decree says she has to pay half of uncovered medical expenses, she still BELIEVES that he should pay for everything for the kids and that it should be no cost to her.
She didn't pay a cent for SD's Urgent Care visit (SD's finger is fine now btw, but she keeps going around telling people it was broken). AND when she took SS to the doctor, the text message was "They'r going to check his eye for $XX, how much can you give me tomorrow?"
I say we don't give her jack shit for that $XX but guess what, I paid $XXX for SS's prescription and she's holding my receipt hostage. (I begged the people at Walgreen's to mail it to me instead of her collecting her and they said they couldn't do it) And we need the receipts for tax purposes. 
Also, yesterday I told SS I paid for his medication. He was going on and on about it, how expensive it was, how good they work, how he forgot it in the car and needs to call his mom to drop it off, how he wish he had a phone to call his mom...( I called DH and had him call BM, and she dropped it off for him this morning). I told SS I paid for it and his mom is supposed to give me the receipt. You should have seen the surprised look on his face, because he was under the impression that his mom paid for it, he knows exactly how much money was spent for his doctor visit and medication, but he certainly thought his mom paid for all of it.
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Seriously??? Times like these
Seriously??? Times like these I thank God for our BM.
BM lives about 30 mins drive
BM lives about 30 mins drive away, I don't have a car and DH is working some crazy hrs, otherwise we certainly would have gone over there.
Definitely keep those
Definitely keep those messages. Save ANY and ALL communications with this nutcase...you'll be needing it. I feel a hugs PAS coming on :sick:
Hang in there!
You know, we have not been
You know, we have not been keeping these messages at all. DH's phone doesn't really make it easy to do, and DH always just shrugged it off. But anyway, after this crap, I have convinced DH that we should save them and I've found a way - we took pictures of the messages (so there's date and sender and everything!)
And she's obviously literate
And she's obviously literate and ladylike too--what was DH thinking? UGH! Pay with CC or debit, so you can get receipts from your bank statements, cc statements...
Did she actually text YOUR
Did she actually text YOUR phone with the messages? It is NOT your problem?! OMG
Agree w/ above posters here. So sorry too. Wow.
When DH wasn't paying the
When DH wasn't paying the whole temporary child support amount (she grossly inflated his income), BM called him a deadbeat dad. Now, SHE isn't paying ANY of the permanent child support, she isn't providing clothes, medical care, didn't pay anything for their glasses, braces, stole their food stamps... but at least she doesn't text DH about it. She would just as easily let them go without before spending her precious money on them.
Oh my...sorry...what a
Oh my...sorry...what a nutcase...oh, sorry, we had a nutcase like that too...she's out of our lives mostly now...changed phones and too freaking bad!
I guess she is really taking
I guess she is really taking that "you should do for your kids what you would have done if we were still married" thing pretty seriously seeing as she is doing jack! }:) I can't tell you how many times my little SS11 came home and told us, "Mommy said she needs her money." Yeah - and I work seven days a week because I don't need mine!!! Pathetic. Luckily - my SS11's BM seems to have turned a corner - for the better. Save those texts! Piece of trash. Since the pharmacy was unable to mail you the receipt, you could escalate the issue. Perhaps go in and explain the situation to the pharmacist. They can pull up records to prove payment, even if it isn't an original receipt. It's very sad when BM's can't let go and how could she degrade his "new" kids? It's like she is referring to your children like they are the latest gadget and that her children aren't as "fun" anymore for DH. Manipulative witch. Who is she to say how your DH's children feel about him? Ugh! Good luck.
Yup. This has nothing to do
Yup. This has nothing to do with the kids' feelings, it's all about how SHE feels HER kids are being cheated out of money that DH owes them. The kids had such a good time with their dad this weekend and they love their baby sister and are so looking forward to baby brother.
I'm sorry for your luck to be
I'm sorry for your luck to be stuck with such a piss poor bm...
in any case, i work in a pharmacy...it is very easy to produce a receipt for meds, simply ask them to reprint your label. there should be a type of receipt at the bottom that states the price rx number and so on...as well, you can ask the pharmacy to print out a statement of all of the medication purchases made over the past x amount of time. heck, you can do it since ss was born.
as well, i'm not very good at keeping up on everyone's posts, but do you have an attorney? if so, i would gladly produce these text messages to him as a sidenote to your time schedule, can't hurt, right?
best of luck to you my dear,
we're here for you.
Thanks! I did go back to the
Thanks! I did go back to the pharmacy I went to and asked them again, and got the print outs!!
And then, it turns out SS was using was the sample from the doctor's office that he was made to believe was sooooo expensive!!! So after telling the kids this weekend that we paid for additional medication that wasn't a free sample, and that their mom has to pick it up and give us the receipt, the kids were very much aware that their mom was purposefully misleading them. When we dropped them back, we let them ask her for the receipt for us, and she would have looked like a complete ass if she didn't send it down, so she had to!!!! And she couldn't tell the kids to ask us for the money, because she's already made it seem as if she pays all of it, so she would again look like a complete idiot by proving to them that dad actually pays for all the stuff!!!