SS13 Calls BM to ask her to bring "All" of His Money
SS13 is so excited about earning money and he's been counting it up in his head: how much he's earned, how much more he can earn prior to his trip, etc.
He had his scheduled call with his mom last night and he told his mom to bring his money directly to the school office right when school was out to pay for the remainder of the trip. SS had asked me how much total he owed ($157) and he told me that he actually "should" have $160 at his mom's.
So while on the phone with BM, I overhear him saying, "I need you to bring ALL of my money. ALL of it. I need it ALL." lol.
Then later he was telling me more about his money and I asked him why he took all his money to his mom's - wouldn't it make sense to keep it here since banks aren't open on the weekends and since he'd need spending money when he was with us...
He said, "I don't know. My mom just kept telling me to bring my money over there."
Then I asked him what he spent so much of his money on already (he started with $250). Apparently BM took him to the fair and he used the money so they could go on rides and buy stuff.
OK! Whatever...
Again, great mom!
DH told him he shouldn't be bringing his money to his mom's any more and that it was her responsibility to pay for their trips to the fair - not his.
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BM used to (maybe still does)
BM used to (maybe still does) take the SKIDs money. She kept telling SD13 that she had put all of her money in a "special bank account". Money never to be seen seen again, it was a couple hundred, SD13 is really good at saving money. One year my mom got each of the 3 SKIDs Target gift cards, $35 each. They took them home, and when they came back I asked them what they got with their gift cards and they said that BM had to use them to buy food. That was the last time anything money or gift cards received at our house ever went home to BM's house. Still pisses me off thinking about it and it was a good 5 or 6 years ago!
Yes. SS13 lives with us and
Yes. SS13 lives with us and visits BM, which makes it even more peculiar that he would take his money over there. He's very good at saving money also.
He told me, "Oh, she's going to put money into my savings account for me. And she'll surprise me by adding some money too - like $5 for a surprise"
Guess what? There IS NO BANK ACCOUNT!
Sounds very familiar... BM
Sounds very familiar...
BM has drained SS's bank account. There was about $800 dollars in it. Heaven forbid she GET A JOB.
It's her responsibility to
It's her responsibility to pay for her rides on the fair, but not for his. She doesn't have to pay for his rides, or even take him to the fair.
BM sounds like a total bitch tho.
And SS seems to blindly believe her.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap, it's annoying me to even read about it, can't imagine how pissed of I'd be if it was happening to me.
I'm actually impartial to
I'm actually impartial to what he does with his money. I think it's his choice and he is old enough to make decisions and learn from them.
His Dad, on the other hand, does NOT want him taking money over to his mother's house. He would like to open an account for SS that BM does NOT have access to.
Oh the old "bank account"
Oh the old "bank account" thing. BM tells the skids that she put their money into their "bank account", when they ask for some of the money for a game, etc. the answer is ALWAYS no. There is no "bank account", it went into BM's pocket and she bought cigarettes or whatever she buys with it. We do not allow any birthday money or money earned at our home to go to BM's, we have to make up for a lot of her shortcomings, we are not going to make up for BM stealing the skid's money.
Gosh. Some women have GIANT
Gosh. Some women have GIANT BALLS!
To tell your kid that they need to get the money that someone else gave them and is assisting them with saving so that they can use it on a trip they are taking them on.
Sounds like your BM didn't want to put out any more $$ than she had to.
RisingAboveIt - I hear ya!
RisingAboveIt - I hear ya! BM takes SD's stuff like crazy, especially cash. When DH and SD were still talking, he asked her what she wanted for her birthday, cash or a gift card? She said "Mom said cash is easier for me". He was skeptical, but gave her cash.
When SD begged for a new bottle of nail polish a week later, DH asked where her money was. She said "Mom fell on hard times and borrowed it but she's going to pay me right back". That was the very last time he ever gave her cash.
Not that I'm aware of
Not that I'm aware of Shaking, but she refused to allow SD to participate in a fund raiser for their upcoming school Washington DC trip in June saying "you've earned it with your good grades, I'll just put it on my credit card" and proceeded to pay the entire $1800 tab on her CREDIT CARD.
You know what else is fucked up? She called DH while we were on one of our first dates demanding he help her with her credit card bills since HE helped rack them up! HA! He had ONE CC in his name and it had a $500 limit on it. He says she LOVED applying for store credit cards every place they went and had a minimum of 4 major CCs.
Yep, never even told DH about
Yep, never even told DH about the trip so it's not like he could contribute. Then when Sd tells him about it and he asks her what she did to deserve going on the trip, she says "My grades". Not that she's lied, manipulated and tried everything in her power to fuck our lives up - no, that doesn't matter.
So, DH refuses to pay for half of the trip, tells SD why, then BM grinds it all into her head that DH is bad and wants nothing to do with her, blah blah blah. SD eats it up with a spoon.
Oh, this is familiar. BM does
Oh, this is familiar. BM does EOWe with SS and pays no support, etc. and won't contribute to anything. She wont' even allow him to attend fundraisers for HIS Washington DC trip that fall on "her" time. Why would she? She doesn't care. She's not paying for anything!!!!
Bleh!
hate her
Even though BM's CS just got
Even though BM's CS just got DOUBLED, she'll likely NEVER tell SD (oh because SD was convinced mommy wasn't taking daddy to court for more money, even after being shown the damn motion!) and she'll pocket all that money to spend on herself.
That's messed up. I am a BM
That's messed up. I am a BM and a SM. I have a bank account for my BS15. I automatically deposit $20.00 a week from my paycheck. ExH deposits a few dollars a month as well. Whenever BS15 wants something I usually give it to him from MY money and don't take the money from his account. Last week he wanted to go to the movies, I told him I could give him $ but it would be from HIS money. He said "Oh totally! I don't expect you to give it to me from your money." Which made me laugh cause I guess he thinks every time I give him money I'm taking it from HIS account. I never touch that money. It's there in case he wants something. I actually DO have a bank account for my brat. So we're not all lying cheats like some of these losers.
LOL. Yes, I hope that all
LOL. Yes, I hope that all mothers are not lying cheats like our loser of a BM.
Oh, no. Actually we don't
Oh, no. Actually we don't have the same BM's because my BM does not want the repsonsibility that comes with a child and would rather DH take care of him. When SS13 was a baby, she actually said, "you go pick him up. I never wanted him in the first place".
Now her response to any request is, "I'm not primary. That's your job." Same woman 13 years later.
She pays NO child support at all. She does not WANT to take care of her son. She only wants to fight with DH and try and annoy him.
Reminds me of when my DH was
Reminds me of when my DH was still having phone conversations with our BM. He tried to get her to agree to putting away $10 a month from his CS he was paying for the skids.
She was all fine with it until she realized he meant $10 for EACH of them (total of $20). Then she went on one of her famous screaming/ranting/hanging up on you tantrums.
Yeah, sorry he wanted you to use some of the precious CS money for their future rather than waste it on new things for YOU (like the new car she bought to replace her van that was already newer than the car we used for transports. Or like the new 5 bedroom house she bought for her and the two skids because the 3 bed/2 bath one they had wasn't good enough. AND she doesn't own either of those anymore).
yes. that's like our BM (who
yes. that's like our BM (who pays no child support), telling SS13 that she will "surprise" him with $5 deposits into this mysterious bank account.
And the fact that she told him to bring his money to her house and she'd take him to the fair. LOL.
Same mom that asks him for gas money to come pick him up.
When SD was 11 or 12 she
When SD was 11 or 12 she received $100.00 for completing summer school without missing any days. Instead of starting a savings account for her (or letting her spend it), BM made SD use it to buy school stuff.