Meal out tonight.....with skid
I HATE eating out with ss13 and have purposefully
Removed myself from this situation for the past few months.
The exception being my birthday when Ss ordered the most expensive meal off the menu and then ate like an absolute pig. I never ever pay for dinners when we're out with Ss because of his piggery.
My parents are visiting at the moment and they wanted to take us out for a meal. This unfortunately includes Ss as he is always here.
I have asked my husband to speak to him regarding manners when ordering and to be mindful of cost as my dad will be paying. I'm nervous, eugh , this has taken all joy out of the evening already for me! Pass me a glass of wine quick!!
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Your parents. Treat is meant
Your parents. Treat is meant for you. Feel free to squash whatever piggery pops out of SS's greedy little mouth.
Better yet, tell DH both he and SS can stay home if DH won't back you on this. It's rude of DH to let his son take advantage of your parents generosity. Tell kid you also expect some table manners.
Just stop SS in his tracks if
Just stop SS in his tracks if he tried to order more than is reasonable. Parents do this all the time. I'd do it with my nieces and nephews in a second - politely but firmly. Believe me the waitress/waiter has seen this many times.
I usually just go out with my
I usually just go out with my parents when they are visiting but my parents thought they were being nice and invited dh and Ss personally as they have not spent time with my dh in a while. I have already asked my dh to have a talk with Ss. See it's just a different way of being raised. Dh is proud of Ss when he orders expensive things and eats them. He didn't seem offended when I asked him to have a word with Ss about tonight seeing as my dad will be paying for 7 people. Let's see how it goes. Seriously pass me the wine!
Tough one. Could your husband
Tough one. Could your husband narrow it down to choices for him so choose between 3-4 meals that way control cost and allow ss some autonomy? It's a hard one- I hope you can enjoy your meal!
How about having your husband
How about having your husband pay for his kid's meal?
I would have left them at
I would have left them at home so I could enjoy my time with my parents.
I would want to leave SS at
I would want to leave SS at home, but I am not sure how well that would go over. Usually if plans like that happen, I try to make it on a non-skid weekend, which I guess you can't do because you said he is always over.
I guess if it was me, I would make sure to just go out to a place that didn't have much over 20$ to pick from. We went to a steak house with DH's parents and SS14, he might have been 12 at the time and the little shit ordered steak and lobster, and they let him!
Our go-to places when we have SS is a local brewery with really good burgers around 10$, or olive garden. Stuff that kid full of pasta.
The other option is that DH asks him what he's looking at to order, and he does the ordering for him, but DH has to be on board for that. DH should have set the rules in place for going out to eat long ago that it's rude to order the most expensive thing off the menu when you aren't paying or you aren't the birthday boy, etc, or whatever you want to say why you don't do that.
I get it though, SS14 can eat an X-large pizza to himself and that's an 25$ pizza at our fav pizza joint, and it's an issue when we go out with a big group and order pizzas and they are like we don't need 3 x large pizzas and I say...yeah we do if you want to even eat a slice. When it's just DH,SS, and I, we like to order a slice, which is a HUGE portion and it's like a personal size pizza that I can hardly even finish. SS14 will fight us that he doesn't want a slice, he wants to order the X-large ....so he can get more to eat and DH and I not so much. These are HUGE pizzas btw ....and the slice is bigger than a dang dinner plate. We just stopped going to pizza when he's with us ...it's just not even worth it. Buy two papa murpheys pizzas for the same price Family size and call it good. Ugh. ....yes we have to buy 2 family size papa murpheys pizzas to satisfy SS14 for just the 3 of us ...no left overs either... *rolls eyes*
I'd go straight to my dad and
I'd go straight to my dad and tell him the problem.
Some possible solutions:
Your dad still treats and explains to all when you are seated that he will only pay up to $xx per person.
Your dad still treats and when piggy SS orders, your dad steps in to tone it down.
Your dad still treats and tells DH ahead of time that he's on the hook for anything over his budget of $xx per person.
Your dad treats you and your mom only.