I'VE F#CKING HAD IT!!!!
ok so here's my situation right now. i have a 4b3b double wide home. in the home, are myself, dh, sd24, sd23, dd8 and gson8, the one's working are myself. there's also 1 vehicle between everyone-MINE (legally dh's but i drive it, it's personalized to me, i pay for it).
so i'm getting ready for work this morning, and i'm out of bra's to wear to work (i HATE running out of clothes when there's ppl there to do the laundry). so dh goes to check, he had to put them in the drier (why are clothes being left in the washer all night???)
dinner dishes never got done (they don't unless i myself or ask one of the kids to do it-minor kids) dh cooks, so i don't expect him to clean it
we made a compromise that if he and sd do the community housework i would keep our room clean-------well, i quit cause at times sd doesn't clean up food dropped on the floor by her son-and doesn't get cleaned up for a week. imo there is NO reason for that house NOT to be shiny all day
so today, i'm ready to tell dh, she has til feb 1 to get a job, or get out-either HE can tell her or i will
we'll see how this goes
also, yesterday, he asked me to call his attorney cause he couldn't, i asked why he said "because payment is past due on the phone bill" so i tell him "have sd pay it with her TANF" he said "she needs help" i tell him "ok, HELP HER!" i get home "did you pay the phone bill?" him "no" me "why not" him "didn't get around to it"
i HOPE LIKE HELL he asks me to bring cigs home cause i'm going to ask him "pay the phone bill" anD IF that doesn't happen whatever excuse he gives me, funds, not enough time, WHATEVER will be my excuse for him not having a single cigeratte today
shits gonna hit the fan when that happens
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Wait, 6 people in the house
Wait, 6 people in the house let food sit on the floor for a week?
OMG- how can you deal with that?
My kid and I would have been in the wind a long time ago.
dh and i are talking: here's
dh and i are talking: here's how THAT'S going
Me: Ok, so I almost lost it this morning
dh: why is that babe
me: Cause I needed clothes that needed dried before I could wear it nothing gets done around the house unless I or you do it-and at time I truly feel like I have to stay on top of crap for it to be done, dinner dishes didn’t get done last night-the phone bill didn’t get paid, and I HIGHLY doubt she still has enough on her tanf to pay it still.
dh: probably not after buying presents
me: Ok well, here’s my ultimatum-I’m so upset right now I just want to get sd13 and dd8 and go play in the evenings instead of being home, I don’t want her (or gson4) going with us to dd8's program tomorrow night-(she can go to church Sunday if she wants to see dd8 in a program), SHE has a house to clean and jobs to look for, and I’m not being a free babysitter/taxi on top of her living with us rent free-even when I AM there. if you want to be the one to handle this, You need to get her to get the lead out of her you know what, I’m ready to take her butt to a women’s center TODAY I’m not ok with how things are going I’m NOT. I don’t believe she does homework during the day-she may hit on it-have the website pulled up, but if she did it during the day there is no reason for her to STILL be working on it at night when I’m home (and she does) she gets frustrated and quits instead of just doing it-then she bitches and moans and complains about it. I’ve watched you do the SAME thing she’s doing (with school) + a part time job and you didn’t take that long doing it-yeah, she’s taking 2 classes at a time, so then she needs to do that during the day and take care of the house by night-and go to sleep on time instead of staying up til midnight or better and get up in the morning WITH US and get back to school/applying for jobs
it feels like the only bill *I* don’t have to stay on top of is the damn cigarette bill-that is the ONLY bill that *I* don’t have to check on. there is NO reason that the phone (or elec) bill didn’t get paid yesterday-you had time to write me a few e-mails telling me about it and asking me to call attorney and bitching that he didn’t e-mail me yet when instead of just checking her tanf balance, calling and paying the damn thing-which would’ve taken less time
I just really don’t feel like my voice and frustration is being heard I really don’t. SHE needs to follow through with her promises and her end of the deal, and right now, NOTHING she promised is being kept (house work, job, and contributing to bills on top of that she lied-she’s going to school but that’s ALL she is doing and she still bitches about that)
I’m just sick of it honey I really am
dd8 and sd13 are my priorities right now, and sd24 is NOT taking away from them,
I’m ready to pull a sil and tell sd24 “that’s not MY problem”
also sent this to dh Here’s
also sent this to dh
Here’s another reality check, her baby is due in just 4 months, she doesn’t have ANYTHING for it other than what WE have gotten her. I’m getting some clothes from friend Friday, that is ALL I am doing, I’m not asking the church for any more than what I already have for supplies (only because they asked what we needed-as a christmas present)-SHE needs to get up off her hmmmmmm and PREPARE FOR THAT BABY-including getting a job! I’m not going to buy diaper’s I’m not going to buy the formula-if I have to start doing that so the baby is taken care of SHE IS OUT! and the baby can either go with her or stay with us.
to be 100% honest guys, i
to be 100% honest guys, i really don't want her around when this baby is born i really don't-i'm honestly (so sad) where i want nothing to do with it. i know it's not babys fault but it isn't mine either
Why oh why are there 3 adults
Why oh why are there 3 adults in the house that do not work?!
there's not, there are 3, one
there's not, there are 3, one works...........dh, works off and on, he's had a hard time finding a job due to economy-my issue isn't with HIM because before sd moved in, he DID bust his ass around the house and when work is available (through a member at church) he works his ass off, at times he works 12+ hours a day-it's just not steady
sd, imo has no damn excuse
*I* work full time
ok so dh hadn't responded, so
ok so dh hadn't responded, so i e-mailed him again he finally responded, said he was cleaning house, so i told him to stop, look for jobs and let HER clean the house-he need not lift a finger without her help (imo)
soooooooo he said "i will when she gets up".............guys i received that at 10:30!!!!!! WTF?! tha'ts HALF the issue right there!
then i told him, let me guess gson4 is up oooo about 9ish?? yuppers
so i told him, guess what? you don't change this soon YOU will be the one getting up with baby when it's born (she'll say she will-but actions speak louder than words)