Thinking about sending a call to BM? should i clear the air?
ok, me and my DH have been together for 2 years and living with my daughter and his son for a little over 1 year now. DH and BM were already sperated when me and DH met. BM left my DH and my SS for another man on my DH's b-day with my SS in the car.eww!! me and my DH met at daycare,, aww , so the few times i would see BM i would say hello and she never said anything i was like forget this. she was allowed to call the house to day goodnight to SS but than she would call 7:30, 8, 8:30 9 ect so i cut that off. ss didnt want to talk to her anyway. she isnt allowed to call DH's cell phone there only contact is by email or BM's calls his job, fine. when the first day of school came around for my SS, BM wanted to pick him up for lunch and than drop him off at the house with my mom in law. fine, BUT she was to beep the horn so mom in law can come out to get ss. do you think BM listened? the vodka didnt drain out from the tuesday night before. so i waited at the end of my block to see what i already expected. just as i thought she parked in my driveway and walked her nasty skank ass to my front door. asshole mom in law opened the door took ss and shut the door. i parked right up bm's ass and got out:
me: r u f-ing crazy
BM: i have a right to know where my son lives
me: why r u on my property?
bm:your crazy
me:yes, i kno that is why you shouldn't f with me
bm:you better move your car or im going to hit it
me: i dare you, your hyandi piece of shit cant move my car, dip shit
bm: you better move, im going to be late
me: the clothes can wait to get folded
after 9 minutes i moved my car
she has called my daughter a devil child, told my ss santa is real, im every name you can think of,ect..she was to busy over the summer to see her son ect...
but im just so sick of the tension with her. trust me i cant stand her but i think i want to try one more time to clear the air, after all i take care of her son like he is my own. wtf?? should i call her?
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Do not call her. That will
Do not call her. That will only make the situation worse.
My thought exactly.. I think
My thought exactly..
I think you may have went overboard saying those things to her, but that's my opinion.
My skids BM drops them off at out house, and she comes inside when she does so. I am fine with that, mostly because it's not our house, its our HOME. Meaning pictures of us on the walls, nicely decorated rooms, etc. I do believe that she has a right to know where her kids are staying and the conditions.
The first time she dropped them off, I gave her a tour of the house (not so thrilled to do so, but gave me a chance to say "this is OUR bedroom", "this is OUR office", "this is OUR kitchen"). If she were to come over and plop on the couch and hang, there would be a problem, but she stays 3 to 5 minutes and let's us know how they have acted that week and what to expect in behavioral changes (besides the unmentioned lack of discipline so they will be unruly until mid-week).
But, then again, I do not know your history with this BM, and I am not judging.
If you want things to go smoothly with her and that doesn't seem to be happening, disengage. BM and I do not have any contact at all except for the one day every two weeks when she drops them off. And I plan to keep it that way. Keeps me happy, and reality is what you make of it!
I think the main issue is
I think the main issue is that BM showed up uninvited and went up to the house when she was specifically asked not to. It is true that BM probably is curious about where her son lives and maybe she does have a right to check the place out, when she is INVITED like any other person. Plus, I don't really know about this BM but I know my BM would NEVER let me or DH into her house and don't we (or at least DH) also have a right to see where SS lives when he is w BM? Whatever the case may be, calling her will probably NOT make anything better.
wow, I don't really
wow, I don't really understand this situation at all. Things seemed to get out of hand really really quickly.