So in a nutshell, ss20 works at a thrift store for minimum wage 30 hours a week. We bought him a car for his bday, 5k and he put in almost 2k. In a matter of less than a month he managed to get into 3 accidents, on each Friday after the car purchase and the car has been out of commission since the last accident where he alleges someone ran into him. 

He is also “creating music” and states he is getting paid well enough to be able to afford 3k in Uber monthly now that the car is in the mechanic. He pulled out a wad of money the other day to fix the car. The problem is that my intuition tells me that he’s doing something we don’t know about, seeing as I have yet to see a music video. I’ve tried to alert SO, but I still get the head in the sand response. 

We now have a huge house and I put SS20 in the basement since it has its own entrance and he convinced me that he wanted to build a studio for music. He has without fail given us money for it as per our agreement monthly. Except he started to have a girl stay over and it wasn’t part of our agreement (this piece also has a long backstory I can’t get into right note to avoid making this confusing). When we called him out on it and told him she can no longer stay over (after 2 months of me suspecting this was the case), he stated he understood but now is doing the passive aggressive not picking up the phone for his dad thing and hasn’t come home for the past 2 days. 

Thing is, he doesn’t want to go to college nor the military nor a vocational school. He wears high end brand stuff (balenciaga, off limits) and states that he he is able to help his mom financially (who by the way still owes now over god knows what in cs). SS14 soon to be 15 is thinking he can have a future in music. Is it fair that I want to move SS 20 out to his own place by the end of the year