I feel like in SO's life, BM gets the spot light while I'm forgotten in the background. BM gets a book while I'm just a footnote.

EVERY single week, BM stirs up some shit, which leads to SO constantly complaining about it, spending time talking talking to his lawyer about it, talking to his friends and family about it.

When you meet SO, the first thing you'll learn about him is that he has a psycho exwife, and then that he shares 2 children with the psycho bitch.

Me for one, I'm so sick and tired of this. Last weekend, SO and I got into a huge fight regarding the ssons. Instead of arguing like usual, trying to get him to see my side, I quietlly packed a few change of clothes and left. I've been staying at my aunt's house for a week now. I don't respond to his email/text/phone call, except to tell him that I need time. he seems to understand what he did wrong and apologized for it via email. He promises to take my input into consideration from now on (we'll see)

He emailed this morning begging for us to meet and talk. Now I can't avoid him forever so I'll accept the invitation to meet and talk. He's already agree to go to couple's therapy, which is good, I'm hoping it'll give me the chance to express myself and for SO to listen and actually hear me. Maybe it'll have a bigger impact if he hears it coming from someone else.

Anyways, one of the things I plan to ask him is that from now on, instead of talking about BM to people we meet or friends or family, he should focus instead on me. Yes, he's allowed to vent for a few minutes but I plan to challenge him to brag about OUR relationship, to tell people how great we are together as a couple, how much I help him with the boys, how much I've been there for him. A month ago, he told me "you saved our lives by being there for us". Well, he needs to start sharing that with others! If he appreciates what I've done for him and what we have together, then it's about time he focuses on that instead of the crazy psycho bitch.

Yes, she's crazy and creates drama therefore making my life, SO's life and the boys' lives miserable and hard and keeping the focus on her, making ther topic of conversation.
I've put up with him talking about her every day for the past 18 months. Enough is enough, I deserve to be the center of his attention.

Am I being childish/selfish by asking him to stop talking about her and start talking about me and our life together? True, when he talks about her it's all negative but negative publicity is still publicity. Move over BM, it's my turn now!