My DH was severely depressed when BM asked for a divorce because he had previously been willing to overlook her infidelities to be able to stay together and be a 24 hour dad. However, when she finally decided she wanted a divorce so that she did not have to hide her indiscretions, he began drinking heavily and even ended up with a DWI which resulted in his license being suspended, 30 days of jail time and being listed as a felon for 5 years.

We have been married now for 5 years this September and he still drinks until he pretty much passes out in his chair every weekend. But, all I can do is say.. well at least he is not driving. But, e-mail me anytime @ [email protected] and I'd love to chat with you if you feel I might be able to help.

It wasn't me, but my DH started drinking heavily the last year of his marriage, even got a DUI...then once he got divorced he was able to channel all his anger/frustration/emotions into something healthy and started running. He ran 2 marathons the year he got divorced That was the only time he drank heavily...he says he was just "existing" and trying to "drink through his marriage". Guess I'll know we're in trouble if he starts drinking!

"You never realize how short a month is until you pay child support"

It wasn't me either but my DH gets pretty lit. He can drink a fifth of vodka everyday and get totally twisted. He has had two DWI's and his license is suspended. he has been drinking like this the entire he was with BM 18 years. Also his mom is an alcoholic (87 years old and still drinks everyday) and his dad was an alcoholic. I do not condone his behavior,but he no longer drives and when he gets drunk at least twice a week he is at home. Sometime I have to pick him up off the livingroom floor to put him to bed.
You are not alone as you can see.

"And this too shall pass..."