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I cant help feeling things will suffer later...

smnikki's picture

im new, but ive posted some stuff with the background of how my mil is nuts. She has verbally attacked me many times, threatened my fh.

It started with a trip to disneyland, where she alowed ss to behave horribly, causing us all to have a bad time. ss went #2 in his pants while we were eating at club33, which takes years to get in to, etc. so he wouldnt stand up to see if he met the height to get on the ride and my fh, myself, my mom, my sd, our friends, and mil were all trying to offer him things to get him to stand up. she turns to my mom, and yells, BACK OFF! so my mom just walked away.the next day mil calls me to say that if me and my mom dont back away from her grandson she will go to exw and see ss, and she will have nothing to do with us or any kids we have....just the background

so all along she has been saying she will go to the ex, well she finally did, and when we picked up ss from daycare, and he said that grandma had come over for dinner at his moms last night, my fh had enough, i though he was going to have fire shooting from his ears. he called his mother and said, how could you betray me like this, loose my number, never call me again, and be a mom to her, because you are no longer mine.

this was 3 weeks ago and honestly, my fh is happy he sees her for what she is and has fallen even more in love with me, if thats possible, because he knows how i am there for him. our life for the most part has been so peaceful, except the bm is now causing lots of drama because she think the mil is on her side.

so here is my issue! my fh says he is ok with never talking to his mom again because he sees her true colors. but im afraid that down the road he will miss her and want her back in our life.

have any of you had to deal with this?

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Sunflower's picture

Not likely BM betrayed your H in the worst way possible. My DH's father did the same thing after he divorced his EX. FIL actually helped BM pay for a lawyer so she could get custody of the kids. BM had left my DH and skids without a care and only fought for custody when FIL got involved. FIL and DH never had a good relationship but after all he has put him through I know he wont be coming back.However if for some reason you H decides to let MIL back in the picture I would remind him of all the pain she has caused and tell H that you support his descision because you love him but you dont want her in your home or near you!You can respect his wishes to see her but you dont have to be involved. This way your not the bad guy. I wouldnt worry though what MIL did is unforgivable in my book.