SDs weekend coming up.......dread on the line
I know I had a break for like 3 months of not having the SDs at our house. I seriously dread knowing that they are coming. Last time it was shit. It doesn't ever get better and now I know that his older SD just wants mommy and daddy back together.
I know I should let that go and kids want that but damn. If you only knew the shit I have put up with or did for these kids. I use to bend over backwards, now that I am not, SDs are just disrespectful and rude.
I think I could honestly deal with SD9 if SD11 wasn't there. SD9 does stupid kid stuff, but doesn't back talk me or roll her eyes at me. SD9 will deny doing stuff, but all kids do it.
I don't know if it's SD11's personality or the fact that she seems to think she's an adult in my house, that makes me want to leave. I work 45 hours week 1 and 35 hours week 2, so 80 hours in 2 weeks like most. I have a 3 hour roundtrip commute everyday, my life is full. I want to relax on the weekends.
I don't want to deal with shitty underpants, kids rolling their eyes or the messes they make. Seriously even DH was pissed because I have a tablecloth on our table, they spill something on it EVERYTIME they are there. It is on that table for 2 weeks, through my toddler and my other two children, they sit at it the first time, it's a mess.
They spill something on our floor EVERYTIME. I am tempted to give these kids a toddler cup with a spill proof lid. We don't allow food anywhere but the dining area, so it's not on my carpet but they find other things to ruin the carpet.
DH has a rule, everyone must take off their shoes at the door. We have a space for the shoes and a rubber mat area, if they are dirty. SDs never have their shoes on the mat or the holder and they seem to always get MUD on the carpet. Which in turn they want to blame my kids or MY DOGS.
I wish a sinkhole would appear on friday night, moments before the arrive, to swallow me up. I wanted to go to a woman's show (craft thing) this weekend but we have all the kids, so that won't be happening. It's planning to RAIN ALL WEEKEND. So we will all be stuck inside the house together.
Mother nature must hate me. LOL
How do you all deal with the impending skids? Do you leave? Hide? Ignore? What?
I have to do something, my health is going. I have never felt so sickly and weak in all my life.
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In my previous step hell I
In my previous step hell I would always try to plan a ladies night out for at least one night of the weekend. ( we have exs skids EOW) It never worked out thought because the ex would call and text me all night because he SUCKS as a father and human being in general!
Can you not go to the craft show for a while alone or with a friend while DH watches the kids?
If I didn't have DD18mo,
If I didn't have DD18mo, maybe.
I don't really trust DH to watch DD18mo while the skids are there. I know that's crazy but it's a comfort level thing.
I understand on some level. I
I understand on some level. I trust NO ONE with my puppy! I know kids and dogs are different but he's the only baby I have.
I have a glass dining room
I have a glass dining room table and I got tired of Skids smearing food and hand prints all over it. So guess who gets to clean the table after every meal now. Skids!!! LOL they would wipe all the food off onto the floor. Guess who gets to sweep the floor after dinner now. Skids!!
We have Skids EVERY weekend. I guess I'm just used to it. I don't hide but as the adult I control the TV (SO isn't really into TV) and Skids don't like what I watch. So they watch TV in SD's room. That gives me a break from them.
Also, SD11 was getting bad about the eye rolling, must be an 11yr old thing. She has stopped since I started making her do push ups every time she did it. (She's probably still doing it behind my back like I used to do to my mom)
Oh how would I love to make
Oh how would I love to make her do that. DH would spontaneously combust.
It took a few years of
It took a few years of arguing to get to this point.
I would be dramatic and ask if Skids were going to drop over dead if they were asked to sweep a floor. He finally got it.
It has come down to me
It has come down to me throwing clothes out of the closet to pack and he isn't "there" yet. I'm not sure if he will get there. It's unfortunate.
I hear you sista. I'm still
I hear you sista. I'm still reeling over this past weekend. Nothing good about any of this.
sorry to hear, it does
sorry to hear, it does consume your life.
It really does.
It really does.
Here is where I hate that
Here is where I hate that part. I guess I shot myself in the foot. I really don't want my DH unavailable to me for 2 weekends a month, especially since he works construction and I usually see him limited anyways.
I told him a few years ago, it felt as though I was being shoved aside when SDs came. I was and basically he still does. DH and SDs would hang all over each other all day and he'd come to me for cuddling at night but not spending any time with me all day. It felt bad.
I guess I should have left that one alone. LOL
You live you learn.