does BM party too much?
Every weekend we hear someone telling us they saw her out at the clubs DRUNK....now I know that all of us deserve a break sometimes from being a parent but it seems like getting drunk every weekend as a parent is a little irresponsible to me...I'm a full time parent. My daughter sees her BF once a year and I don't go out and get plastered. I do go out very rarely and have a couple drinks but I make sure I'm still able to take care of my child in case of an emergency. My child comes before partying and having fun and I haven't been able to go out in a LONG while because of the problems I've had with her. I know I've stated I can't stand my SS but I do worry about his well being when he's with his mom. She's a swinger who has multiple partners at one time IN HER HOME!, and she parties alot and nothing can be done about this...It's sad but I know something bad is going to have to happen to SS in order for people to wake up to see how irresponsible she is and that scares me. He spends more time with babysitters than he does his own mother 
but when hes with us he spends no time with a babysitter..he's always with us because we rarely go out. Just kinda worries me and fiancee and I feel stuck. We can't afford anymore court proceedings and lawyers so i guess it will just stick the way it is. And I hope he stays safe.
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I hear you!
My ss lives with us mostly. He goes to his Bm's house on Thur. night and 2 weekends out of the month. What gets us is that his Bm can't wait for ss to get to sleep on Thur. night so she can go out with her friends and or latest boyfriend. Ss has been getting horrible grades on homework done at her house on Thur. night and quizzes taken on Fri. because he isn't studying or not studying enough.
Wouldn't you think that since Bm has less time with ss that she would go out on nights that he wasn't at her house? It is just so frustrating.
I realized that my ss is old enough to be responsible for his school work but he's not. Even at our house, if we would let him go, a lot of stuff would slide. We have to always stay on top of the school stuff. Bm isn't doing that and we're ready to tell her that he needs to come here after school on her Thur. and do his homework. Then she can pick him up when it's done and grades.
Even when Bm helps ss with his homework, he gets D's and F's because she doesn't know how to do it. She thinks that she can call my Dh and get him to grade algebra over the phone. It's virtually impossible without seeing it.
Dawn
yup - BM is single...and def acts like it
We only have SD every other weekend. I feel like we're babysitters while BM parties. Then again, BM lives with her parents and sister, so even when it's NOT visitation weekends, BM still parties. She has info all over myspace of the parties she's gone to etc.
I remember once she told us that she can be out there parting but she'd rather stay home with SD....well, actions speak louder than words.
I guess...hopefully BM will find some guy and will us alone. BM even got as far as being the driver in a drive by shooting after her, her bf at the time, and his friend got ejected from a club for being too drunk! She didn't know he was going to do it...she didn't know he had a gun..but DAMN....look at the type of crowd you hang with - ghetto and dumb. Well, she has her family to fall back on, they own several successful businesses, so she has her mommy and daddy to bail her out of anyting. Okay, I'm off on a tangent.
Regarding homework, SD will save her hard homework for when she's with us...because she knows we can actually help her and her mom doesn't know the answers - or it's too difficult for her mom.
Bottom line, BM in our situation, parties regardless if it's a visitation weekend or not...because she has her family to watch SD. The family pretty much raises SD and BM just drives SD around to her dance class and school.
our BM
has him on the weekends she does these things though..this is what worries me. I admit when I was single I went out and partied with my friends but I NEVER picked up my daughter intocxicated I always did these things while she was at a babysitter overnight or with her father for the weekend. I rarely drink anyway, I always end up feeling like poo the next day..lol...I figure something will happen to her one of these days, DUI, car accident, or something will happen to SS and she'll be to wasted to take care of him...I understand being single and wanting to have fun but when you're a mom it becomes different IMHO