Since BM got put in jail for attacking DH, her tone in her text messages (the only way DH will communicate with her) has softened a bit, but she's still trifling, IMO...

DH has had it with her on every front, so he sticks to the CO to the letter...He does not deviate one tiny bit anymore because of all of the previous drama...

So BM sends him a text message saying that SDs cousin has a birthday party Saturday and she "really wants to go", and wanted DH to miss his weekend with her...

DH declined and told her he'd be picking her up at the normal time...

Here's my thing...It's sad that SD will be missing the party...Hate it for her. Unfortunately, DH has been down this road before. She's done the EXACT same thing, and then when she took him to court to get his visitation revoked, she included days when she said SD had activities (and he agreed to miss his weekend so she could attend them) as days DH didn't pick her up...Even though he had his own documentation of their agreement...The judge initially sided with her (until he figured out what BM was trying to do).

When DH was telling me about the text, my first response was, "Wow...Really? MISS your weekend over a 3 hour party? That was your only option? She didn't say, Can you take her? or Can we swap weekends, or Can we meet after the party?? None of that?? Just her way or the highway??" DH said, "Apparently, so..."

I told him that information was particularly insightful. It gave us a great deal of info into her person and character, and it explains (to me) why she's so crazy...

DH said he hopes BM doesn't go up to the school to remind SD that she'd be missing the party so SD will act a fool when DH goes to pick her up...(this HAS happened in the past. We had an event planned with MIL and it was DH's weekend...BM wanted DH to miss his weekend, and he declined...So when he went to pick her up from the police station, BM said as SD was getting out of the car, "Bye...See you Sunday...Too bad you're going to miss x,y,z event..." and of course SD (@ 4 or 5 at the time) fell out screaming and saying, "Nooo...NOOOO I don't want to go with daddy!!! Don't make me go!!" It was sad, and of course DH was pissed...)

So DH said he doesn't understand why BM would even bring the party up to SD when she knew it was on DH's weekend, and why she didn't inquire of him first before getting to the point where SD "really wants to go"...She's trying to make DH look like the bad guy, and right now he's damned if he does...damned if he doesn't...