I haven't posted a blog since Christmas.

What a difference a year makes. Coming up on the time when DH's child went back to her mom's.

DH and I rarely argue any more. In fact, I've noticed it happens mostly while his kid is here. And I know why. Because our actions, purchases, future plans and words all get reported back to Uberskank. We end up being so careful about everything while she's here. The longer the visit, the more touchy we become.

We're working on not taking it out on each other! :evil: Especially after the stunt his kid and Uberskank pulled at Christmas, I've learned to simply keep to myself and not get involved in her life.

Recently Uber tried to get DH to talk their kid out of going to the HS she wants to attend next year and "side with Uber". She wanted him to convince their kid she should attend a different HS. She told him they can be "united" in this decision. Hahahahahaha.... :D. It was just a ploy of her's to put another wedge in between father and daughter. Apparently we're too dumb to catch on.

I posted on a blog earlier this morning stating I neither hate nor love (or really even like) DH's child. I honestly don't give her a second thought as long as she's respectful to her father, me and our home. I don't engage her in conversations, I answer her questions with questions and don't give out any important information about our home, my job or my family.

Sad existence? True but necessary for my sanity and to stay in my marriage. I don't involve myself in DH's relationship with his kid. And when she s**ts on him again, I will listen quietly, comfort him and not comment.

Not the relationship I envisioned I would have with DH's child. But after long counseling sessions I've come to terms with the truth, I don't have to have a relationship with this person. I'm careful to be courteous and polite but remain emotionally detached.

Here's to our much calmer and happier household. It's something I wish to sustain for the next four years until she graduates from HS. Good luck to all Step's and Parents out there going through rough times. I hope you all see brighter days soon.

"Be like a duck, calm on the surface but always paddling like the dickens underneath."
Michael Caine