DH complains about entitlement but then feeds into it
SD14 won't give DH a Christmas list (or talk to him at all for that matter) however we'll still send Christmas gifts.
DH shot down every idea I had.
What about some books? - I don't know what kind she is into or what she doesn't have already.
SD is into witchcraft maybe we should get her some witchy books or crystals or something. - I'm fine with her being into that kind of stuff but I don't think BM is and I don't want any of that sent to the house where being can see it and say we're satanic.
What about some clothes? - she needs to help me pick those out.
What about this lounge set on Amazon it looks really cozy? - she only wears brand names (true SD really is a brand snob even her underwear needs to be brand name with a big logo on it)
What about some jewelry? (I show him some trendy fashion jewelry) - she doesn't wear anything that isn't gold.
Ive seen her wear fashion jewelry- I'm not getting her cheap jewelry. (OH KAY)
What about gift cards? (I'm over it) - I'm not sending a gift card I would rather take her shopping.
Why don't you get perfume like you did last year (SD loved that big Gucci logo on the side of the bottle) - I guess I could...
Or a Micheal Kors purse (I'm just listing gifts he'd get me) - yeah she would probably like that but I want to take her shopping to pick it out.
"She needs to have something from you on Christmas day or she isn't going to talk to you..."
Perhaps this is going to be a year without a Christmas for SD! I told my husband that he has complained in the past about SD acting entitled but the way he responded to all of my suggestions for gifts shows me that he is completely encouraging of this entitled behavior.
DH said "she's used to having nice things, and I want to get her something nice" all right then don't complain about her being a spoiled brat with ever increasing demands.
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Over
I would be entirely over this topic. It's all on DH. If he brings up this topic again, I'd limit my comments to "Hmmm", " Interesting" and " Gee".
That's my plan, he better not
That's my plan, he better not guilt Trip me for not coming up with the perfect gift idea
Aaaaaaaaaand I'd be done
Aaaaaaaaaand I'd be done making any suggestions. DH can sink or swim. Like JRI said, limit your comments. "That's nice", "Mmhmm"...
Exactly what Aniki and JRI said
How maddening. I would have given up after the first couple of ideas fell on deaf ears. Let him figure it out. Odds are he takes one of your ideas anyway even though he dismissed them initially.
Yep. "I dunno, you figure it
Yep. "I dunno, you figure it out" would be what I said. Why is he buying fancy stuff for a kid who won't speak to him?
Because he's a pathetic
Because he's a pathetic Disney dad grovelling for any crumbs of attention Princess might throw him?
Ding ding!
Ding ding!
When my SS was alienated, DH
When my SS was alienated, DH bought him one gift for Christmas- and left it at our house for him to get when he finally decided to speak to us again.
Hmm sounds like a 14 year old
Hmm sounds like a 14 year old is very entitled to what brands she likes. Reality will be harsh when she has to pay for it herself.
I'm With JRI
Done with that. While we don't do gifts with DH's kids anymore, he does have grandkids. He handles everything. As I'm disengaged from the entire group, the gifts come from DH alone. He shops, he mails. I don't even know what he buys.
Peace of mind is worth the not knowing and not caring.
My OSD15 is not answering to
My OSD15 is not answering to DH either. "What would you like for Christmas?" "I don't know. No stuff. Don't get me a lot of stuff."
In the past I've given DH ideas, but last year he bought every single one. And all of them are just shoved in her closet unused.
This year I'm giving her the usual new PJs. I was going to give some cash, but she doesn't use it, and one of my friends said to do a donation in her name. Perfect! This year it's PJs and a donation.
I'm keeping my mouth shut with DH. I highly recommend you do the same he can figure it out.
Damn..what does he want from
Damn..what does he want from you? I'm so confused. Does he just want to shut down everything you said? I don't understand why a 14 yo needs to be brand obsessed. I think your DH raised her wrong.
On a side note if i can only achieve not needing to see SS again by not buying any gift that'd be really lovely..XD (not happening though)