A lot of my blog posts lately have been revolving around my new DD. Some of my older blogs may have gotten into some issues I had with my future step kids, behavior and attitudes but in basking in the glow (ok going crazy) of new motherhood I have glossed over and not posted regarding issues that seriously irritated the heck out of me.

This post revolves around my FSS (13) and his attitude/behavior this weekend. FSS is one of those kids that is pouty/sulky when he does not get his way. If these behaviors do not bring out the daddy guilt and absolve FSS of whatever chore he has to do then a flaming teenage attitude from hell commences. Complete with door slamming, screaming, muttering under his breath and on occasion throwing things. SO blamed a lot of his behavior on 'his age'. Since my DD came into the picture SO has been noticing it is not 'the age' as she is only two months older than FSS. If I (or he) asks or tells her to do something, she is on her feet with a yes ma'am or yes sir, the task is completed quickly and she comes back asking if there is anything else we need, or can she resume playing/video games/whatever else she was doing. (Yes, her BM and BF raised a GOOD kid! I am incredibly blessed!)

This past weekend we spent at SO's apartment for most of the time. Nights I brought DD home to sleep in her own bed. Saturday was notable for a teenage boy at SO's apartment complex calling DD a gross word that starts with an N, and FSD b*tch slapping him for doing so. SO, who is normally against violence, bought FSD and DD ice cream after he found out what happened. (Boys parents came to SO complaining she hit the kid. Supposedly he didn't hit her back because he was raised not to hit women. SO told them he was impressed, however he would be more impressed if they also raised him not to be a ignorant racist and to not call young girls offensive names.)

Sunday the sh*t hit the fan. SO had gone out and purchased his kids school supplies. (Preface: BM purchased their shoes and back packs, each parents bought clothing for their own houses, and SO purchased binders/paper/pens/dividers etc. With the supply lists the school came out with BM and SO actually broke even on what they spent on back to school). FSS to put it nicely is not the most organized person in the world. When he got his supplies he just shoved them into his backpack. Never opening a thing. DD offered to organize it all for him so he let her and went outside to play. While DD was putting together his binders she saw his backpack from the year prior, still in his room, and went through it to pull out any pencils/ pens/ supplies that could be added to this years supplies.

Apparently in going through the back pack, she found an over the summer assignment he was supposed to complete. No, she didn't tattle on him. She went outside found him and told him. The two of them came back into the apartment and he suddenly disappeared into his room, while DD was sitting on the couch playing his favorite game system/video game. After about an hour of FSS being in his room SO started getting worried the kid might be sick and went to check on him. And the sh*t hit the fan.

In short order FSS was sitting at the dining room table doing this 'assignment'. It is 20 pages long, would take most kids working an hour or two a day the entire summer to complete. The premise behind it is to ensure these kids know how to study and perform on a high school level. FSS tells SO that he 'forgot' about it, for the entire summer. School starts the 23rd. So he now has one week to finish an assignment that should take all summer to do. SO calls BM to inform her (as the kids are with her this week per the CO) and she is angry, cursing screaming angry, as apparently she planned on taking the skids to Disney,Epcot,Universal studios etc for 4 days this week. FSS has not only messed up his vacation... but hers and FSD's as well. Which promptly pisses FSD off at her brother as well.

Really long story made short. FSS remains with SO for the 4 days he should have been going on vacation, to do his assignment. Since that would leave him "home alone" during SO's work hours, FSS will be going to work with me, to sit in my office and do nothing but his assignment for 8 hours a day for those 4 days. Every waking moment this week he will be working on it and per BM even if he does get it done early and in enough time to go on vacation, he isn't going and can do it a second time for once again 'forgetting' and procrastinating which caused drama.

FSS of course had a major attitude brewing. And when it came time for his chore that evening (cleaning the kitchen after dinner) he tried to get out of it by saying he had to do his assignment. That excuse did not fly with SO at all and the situation deteriorated to SO standing over him in the kitchen barking orders at FSS on how to clean the kitchen correctly since his first attempt at it seriously failed inspection. Literally, pick up that pot, pick up the blue sponge, put soap on the sponge, scrub the pot, inside and OUT. Rinse the pot, dry the pot, open the cabinet, put it away. Continue with every dish the kid had to wash. This lasted for well over an hour. By the end of it FSS was so pissed he threw up. So angry he was shaking. SO sat him down to have a talk with him and the kid tried saying FSD and DD never got into trouble everyone only picked on him. When SO pointed out DD was recently grounded for two weeks and FSD had been grounded prior to that he back tracked to BM always picked on him and now SO was as well, wah wah wah!

SO was not falling for it at all. He called BM who showed up at the apartment 15 minutes later and these two parents, verbally tore this kid a new *ss. BM was there about an hour and the kid threw up twice while they were chewing him out. Per both parents he gets like that when confronted and when he is unable to lie or manipulate his way out of a situation he gets himself into. He gets so worked up trying to find a way out, instead of just saying I messed up, I am sorry, that he works himself into throwing up. BM is convinced this is another 'pity me' tactic he uses to get out of trouble. Since he throws up, he thinks he can just go to bed and the issue is over because he is 'sick'.

BM did make a very nice offer. She has already reserved her hotel and purchased tickets to all of the attractions for the skids. Since FSS is not going to be going, she did offer to take DD in his place. "The money is already spent, I would rather someone use the tickets and enjoy the time." I told her I would think about it and she seemed surprised I would have to think about it. She and I had a short talk, that I was well aware of her talking trash about me to her kids and attempting to undermine my relationship with them and their father. And I had serious reservations about putting my daughter in her care for 4 days if there was any chance my daughter would hear me referred to as an old whore, a slut or any other derogatory term.

She left with a lot to think about. The Orlando trip starts Thursday, I told her I would talk to her Wednesday and let her know my decision. One blessing to it, she made the offer outside of DD's hearing so if I end up saying no, which I am leaning towards, she has no idea the offer is on the table so has nothing to be disappointed about.