Sorry to be a blog hog but having a frustrating weekend.

The skids got invited to go out with a friend today. The parents offered to pick them up and chose a landmark for the them to meet the skids. This is a family from BMs suburb. The skids are going to be going to HS in that suburb soon. DH doesn't know anyone there though he's heard about a few kids.

DH usually walks the skids places when other parents would let the kids out the door with a "be careful crossing the road." OSS is 14! He's even asked my DS to walk YSS to things if DH isn't home. And, DH is worried about the skids growing away from him as they start HS in the suburb.

So, today he tells them to go ahead and meet the family at the landmark, we are going grocery shopping. I thought to myself that it was nice DH was letting go a bit, though unusual for him. So, I innocently (honest) asked him why he wasn't walking the skids over and meeting the family, that it was a bit out of character for him so I was curious. He bit my head off! "It's nice that the skids finally have someone asking them to go out and it's fine that it's from BMs neighborhood, and why don't you want them to go, DS goes everywhere, and you (meaning Red) and I have worried about OSS not having friends over or getting invited to things. But I should stop them from going because you don't think they should! That's horrible of you!" (summarized)

Um, I never said any of that. And I pointed that out to DH. I asked him if I said any of those things. No. Then why was I getting accused? Hmmmm. No good answer.

All I was asking about was his behavior/attitude and especially since he doesn't know the family and is worried about being part of their lives once they are more focused on the HS and the friends near BMs, I figured he'd take every opportunity to get to know people. Once he finally stopped sitting backwards on his high horse and climbed down, he talked a little more rationally. He did go meet the family.

He doesn't listen. He reacts to a perceived implication.