things were too good to be true. SD has fallen right back into her routine of being rude, disrespectful, deceitful, dishonest, manipulative, etc. She has gone back to spending the majority of her time hiding in her room, sleeping, sitting on the computer for hours. The day we left for England, she decided she didn't want to get up and get ready when we told her to, so 10 minutes after we were supposed to leave she is still in bed in her pajamas. Her father went up and told her to get up or get left and she only realized he was serious when we were pulling out of the driveway without her. That got her ass in gear and she was uncharacteristically polite, respectful, and helpful after that...all week long...until Sunday, the day after we got back. She was supposed to be grounded for 3 more weeks because of the zeroes she's been getting (she's been grounded for a month already due to other issues). Her father and I talked about it and were so proud of her excellent behavior and the way she helped out with the little ones all week that we decided to lift the grounding. When I told her about it, she didn't even say thank you or anything. All I got was "ok". It took her father telling her that she should be more respectful and thankful for things like that for her to come back and say anything to me about it. Then, yesterday, after she came home from school, I noticed that she had on yet another new set of earbuds for her ipod. She told me the week before last that she had broken her original set and had a friend go buy her new ones instead of letting us know so we could just take her to get new ones. She gave me the same story with the ones she had on yesterday and when I called her out on having already given me that story she told me the other set had just mysteriously turned up in her bag. I swear I don't think I will ever be able to believe a word that comes out of that child's mouth ever again. I know this probably sounds trivial and petty, but there have been a lot of things like this happening lately and SD has a history of stealing things. Is there any way to get past my trust issues with her? I am so tired of second-guessing everything she says and does. I hate living with someone so dishonest, but I want so badly to get her change and be and honest, trustworthy person.