"A woman of a certain age and mature"... Bad Rags, Bad!
So tonight we were watching some TV and a commercial came on. My incredible, beautiful, sexy, scary smart bride commented that the woman on the commercial is "cute". I had missed it so I rewound the commercial and paused on the lady she was commenting about. A beautiful mid-40s lady.
I commented that she was beautiful then... I shot myself in the foot. More like the head. It looks like I am sleeping on the couch... for a while.
I commented that as I have gotten older my taste in women has changed and instead of the young hotties I totally gravitate to appreciating more mature women of a certain age who are classically beautiful, confident and accomplished.
I got daggers shot at me out of her eyes and she gave me the "Really!" expostulation
. I sat there a bit stunned because in my man brain I was totally crushing on my stunning hot beautiful wife.
Nope, apparently I had just broken every rule on how to not offend your bride. I got daggers all evening, and I'm still getting them. She even brought up how I crush on the sexy little smile lines at the corner of her amazing huge brown eyes and how she has asked me not to mention them over and over again and I still bring them up. They really are sexy. I am proud to have put many of the smiles on her face and made many of the laughs that put those sexy little rays of happiness at the corners of her eyes. But... I can't bring them up... ever.
Looks like I will be asking the Google for construction plans for dog houses.
Really, she was an incredible 18yo hottie when we married and soon she will be a 44yo stuningly beautiful, statuesque woman who has my total and complete attention. But... I F-ed up.
Off to buy a bale of flowers,
Time to ask the Google and start to research great restaurants to take her to and to recenter my brain on how not to chew on my own foot.
smh
Yep, just went into our bedroom to re-install a blind that fell down while the measuring guy came to measure out windows for new shades and curtains today. Without the blackout blinds up she can't sleep. After I put the blind back up I went in for a hug... not happenin. sigh. Doghouse here I come.
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Women are emotional beings.
Women are emotional beings. She was probably feeling insecure at that moment and needed reassurances. She will get over it
^ I try not to pull this s***
^ I try not to pull this s***, but there are moments I'll look at my DH when there's some attractive on the screen. I'm gauging his reaction. Doesn't happen a lot. But you know. I've always had low self-esteem, so I get major insecure at moments! I think I've said some lady on screen was cute once, DH smartly kept his mouth shut.
You fell into the trap fueled by insecurity. lol. She'll be okay! Just give her a second or two.
Oh Rags! LOL
Oh Rags! LOL
I get what you are saying though. My DH had this salt and pepper thing going when we first met, being younger to mid 30's at the time, it was a little newer to date someone who was greying. I found it very sexy. Now he is almost all salt and no pepper LOL but I love it!
Having known you for a lot of
Having known you for a lot of years, Rags, I have to say this doesn't sound like your wife's typical behaviour at all. Is all well with her? I wouldn't have thought she'd be that oversensitive. It wouldn't bother me at all if DH said someone on TV was cute, especially if I'd expressed that thought myself also.
I agree
This seems out of character for your wife. But, it could be that she's recently found more bumps, gotten out of an exercise routine, had to buy bigger pants, really anything could have done it.
I really don't know how you get out of this one other than what you're doing. If you tell her you think she's sexier now than before, then you're implying she wasn't sexy before.
i don't think that it was
i don't think that it was that I agreed that the lady she had commented on was cute. I think it was my comments about finding more mature women to be attactive. She is 43 and looks like she could be in her late 20s to early 30s but she is sensitive about not being a "young" woman any longer.
For sure it was not typical of her. At first I thought she was giving me crap about how I worded my part of the discission but it did not take long for me to notice the tighness in her jaw.
IMHO the root cause is that I am a clueless man.
Thanks observation. I believe you are absolutely right that this is out of character for her. Sadly... not so out of character for me. I lose the plot periodically and have to redeem myself.
I personally don't think you
I personally don't think you did anything wrong and it could be you just caught her in a insecure moment. I have always sensed in your posts your great love, support, and admiration for her and feel she has absolutely NOTHING to worry about
She definately has nothing to
She definately has nothing to worry about.
If anyone has something to worry about it is me. She truly is amazing. I on the other hand am a 55yo guy with some work to do on fitness. She gets tons of attention any time we are out and about. Men of all ages from late teens to late middle age as well as women. She was beautiful as an 18yo, gorgeous as a very curvy 38yo and absolutely stunning at 43 after a 100Lb weight loss over the past several years. I have lost 80 myself but need to drop another 60 to be her arm candy.
I am sure there is a lot of questioning going on in people's minds when they realize we are a couple.
It was probably just a timing thing. It sounds better today. But we will see when she gets home this evening.
Bad Rags
Maybe you can make it up to her by washing her undergarments...oh wait that didnt work out well for you!
Even the most confidant bride/grooms get moments of "jealousy" ( if you want to call it that). Not to sweat it Rags!
My stomach hurts from
My stomach hurts from laughing as I read your comment. There is not a snowballs chance in hell that I will ever launder her lady garmets again... ever! However, I will fold them if she has not gotten to that stage if I notice it needs to be done.
Thanks for the laugh and the reminder to never again launder her unmentionables.
Thanks for the thoughts and
Thanks for the thoughts and insights everyone.
She sounds much better today. She was playful this AM as she was heading out the door for work.
I am not cooking tonight. It is sushi time!
This house husband stuff is actually kind of fun... but..... I am getting to the end of my enjoyment of it and am ready to get back to my career. I had an interview this AM with the executive team of a former client that I consulted for years ago. They called while I was driving home (an hour commute) and told me they were putting together an offer. That news sure helped with the bride I think.
I appreciate the ear and advice.
Sincere regards,
Rags
Congrats!
Rags, I am excited for your new job and hope you and your lovely wife enjoy some celebrations!
Thank you very much.
Thank you very much.
Ah Hah! Clarity. And still a little bit of Bad Rags.
Thanks again to all for the insights.
And... drum roll................... The 19th will be the one year anniversary of my FIL's death. DW came home this evening and needed a long hug and proceeded to answer my question of what is wrong with reminder that next week will be the one year anniversary of the loss of her dad. And this will be the first Father's Day without her dad.
Her office has lost three fathers and a husband since last June. My FIL was the first to pass. DW and one of her colleagues who lost her father have been supporting each other daily for the past couple of weeks.
So... things are making a little more sense.
I should have made the connection to her grieving her dad with next week being one year.
Sometimes my tendency to not dive deep can bite me in the butt.
But.. I did learn something.