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Submitted by Raggles on Wed, 04/15/2015 - 10:04am

SO stayed over at mine last night, leaving SD17 with SD15 alone we have done this a few times. SO not happy about as he doesnt feel confident in trusting his daughters to be okay.
Anyway i find out that last night SD17 went out for the evening leaving SD15 on her own. Sd17 never goes out, partly because she has no friends and partly because SO wont let her. I jave tried in the past tp encourage her and him to live life a little!!
My point is SO will hit the roof if he finds out she has left sd15 on her own and will probably not stay over at mine again
Its a no win situation but i feel guilty knowing and he doesnt - especially as she wont tell him and is lying to him.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 04/15/2015 - 10:28am

Teenagers are such sneaky little shits! My SD16 had her bf over this past weekend while we were gone
(when already told NO he could not come over)...bad part for her is...we came home early.

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Submitted by Raggles on Wed, 04/15/2015 - 10:29am

It wont get back to him unless i say something or they let slip by mistake. He treats SD17 as a baby. Which she is!! If ot was SD 15 i honestly dont think it would be so much of an issue.
He is not controlling with me and left them for the night to spend time with me.
I have tried to explain he needs to let go a little as she will be 18 in Jine amd then he has no control over her apart from the final move out scenario!
Tbh i am surprised she has lied to him as she worships the ground he walks on but as he is with me i see it as her rebelling. If he finds out it will be my fault in his eyes as he was with me and not with his precious children.
Part of me wants to tell him to open his eyes to his not so perfect daughter and that she is a normal teenager which he wont like.

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Submitted by Raggles on Wed, 04/15/2015 - 2:30pm

Thanks Sally can always rely on you to give me the right answer!!
I actually feel sorry for SD15 as she was left alone, she is a quiet thoughtful child and is the one that is suffering because of the situation SD17 has partially caused between SO and myself.

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Submitted by Raggles on Sat, 04/18/2015 - 4:14am

There was a silly incident over a chocolate bar on thursday night when i went over to his. I asked SD15 if she would like a bar to which she said yes. SO and I went to the shop and bought some. He asked what i was getting SD17 and i replied - no idea i didnt ask her! We did buy her a bar and when i took it home i went into sd15 to give her hers. Sd17 was in the same room and as i walked in she walked out back to her own room ignoring me as usual. I left her chocolate bar in the kitchen.
SO came in and asked why i hadnt given the bar to SD17 - i just looked at him. He took it upstaires to her and came down and said she says thanks. I couldnt help myself and replied... would have been nice if she actually came and said that to me personally instead of ignoring me. SO replied oh she is doing homework!
We went out later in evening and he asked why made that comment. I told him what had happened earlir ie she was actually in same room,saw me and walked out wordlessly. That was why bar ws in kitchen. His response was.... oh i didnt know that.
I pointed out alot of things happen that he isnt aware of because he doesnt see it!!
He did apologise to me and slowly i think he his getting the bigger picture.
Yes it is all childish but i refuse to be in this mess all the time and disengaging from sd17 is working for me.