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Entitled much???

purpledaisies's picture

My son has a gf that is kinda demanding on him. She does talk to me on face book A LOT but this one took the cake! It went like this..

Gf: Can so come over today?
me: that is up to him his brothers are here though
gf: Son tells me that he doesn't get payed over the weekend.
Me: he doesn't have a job to get paid! (small note here, I give son money for the week to eat on since I'm not home at night. I work nights and dh doesn;t get home til late himself.) It think she is referring to that.

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purpledaisies's picture

dh and I are talking about it right now. I will sit him down and talk to him about this girl.

purpledaisies's picture

He is 17 but he isn't like that. he listens to me. I did let him see the convo with her and his first words were "sorry but don;t get mad at me I didn't say it." I told him he needs to keep her in check,.

Jsmom's picture

You are probably giving him too much disposable income and she wants a piece of it. When he has no money, she will move on to the next guy. Consider cutting him off for awhile.

purpledaisies's picture

Jsmom funny you mention that b/c he told her that he didn't get paid this weekend b/c the boys are here and he won't be cleaning like he normally does since they will be here and help clean too so there is no point and getting any money. lol hence her talking to me on face book about not getting paid. lol

purpledaisies's picture

That is what I said! I talked to son about this and he said that she takes everything he says wrong and he really thought he explained it well to her. And she is driving him crazy. I told him he needs to break up if that is what it is all about. he said he tried but she won't take no for answer. OH LORD now what??

He said he made up some excuse not to go over there and had no idea she would talk to me about it. Basically he doesn't want to be her bf and she won't take no for answer and he is now making up excuses not to see her.

i don;t know what to tell him?? :jawdrop:

stormabruin's picture

She will have no choice but to take no if that's all he offers. Instead of making excuses to not go over there, he needs to simply tell her he doesn't want to be her bf & that he's moving on, & then follow through.

Making excuses & beating around the bush are what cause confusion, mixed signals, & things being taken wrong. It's hard to hurt people we care for, but it hurts that person more when we pussyfoot around & drag things out because we feel like they can't handle the truth.

I imagine if the roles were reversed your son would want her to be truthful & forthcoming with him. People deserve that much.

purpledaisies's picture

Your right and I did say something to him but he keeps saying she doesn't get it.

stormabruin's picture

If he follows through she will. If he ignores her phone calls & all of you delete her from FB she'll get it. If he's being wishy-washy & making excuses she'll still think there's something there.

Sounds like he just needs to make a clean break to make it final for her.

Like Flabby suggested, have his number changed.

stormabruin's picture

Except that now he's decided he doesn't want to truly break up. No wonder that girl is getting mixed messages. He's sending them...saying one thing & doing another!

purpledaisies's picture

I know I told him that too. I don;t know what to do? I try to explain it but if he doesn;t want to listen... Sad

purpledaisies's picture

I just talked to son about this and he said that he will talk to her and see if she will change before truly breaking up. So yep it is son;s fault for going back and forth and I told him that. But he wants to work it out. SIGH...