I have never considered myself my skids mom as they have one. But at the same time bm has made very clear to me and skids that they are NOT to call me mom nor am I to call myself their mom. Ok that is fine with me.

Anyway I was talking about my skids at work to someone else who is a bm and her kids go to their dads house every night and she has them during the day as we work nights. He has a gf. So my coworker had no problem with my calling them my step kids and me their step mom. However another coworker over heard (she does not have her kids they were taken away) and she got so very mad and yelled at me for not considering them my own kids. My other coworker that I was talking to told her that she is glad that I don;t consider them "my" kids. And if the father of her kids gf ever did that she would rip her a new one. Sher said it is not cool for someone else to try to mom to someone elses kids who is very much in their lives. My other coworker still would not let this go. she kept saying she thought it was wrong and I should be considering myself their mom!

Now this got me to thinking what is her way of thinking she never say why but that I was wrong. I guess I just wanted to know where she was coming from.