Another update on weather my dad is my dad UPDATE!
I sent my sane aunt a mess and asked her what she meant when she said "Do you know the story of your birth"? And that he has been my dad since I was born. She sent back she has to think on it? Huh what does that mean? Why would you have to think on a birth that has already happened? It is history that is set in stone? I asked her why she had to think on it and asked her what is not being said! Something just keeps telling me that something is not being said about my birth. I have been on the verge of tears all day.
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I can see your upset about
I can see your upset about this. But any man can be a biological Dad. It takes a real man to be a DAD. Hope you get the answers your seeking and I hope they aren't too painful.
She just send another just
She just send another just saying You know who your dad is and not to listen to my other aunt. She didn't answer my questions nor did she anything about why she asked me if I know the story about my birth after I asked her directly. What does that sound like to you ladies?
It sounds like the aunt who
It sounds like the aunt who you call crazy wanted to stir stuff up and she succeeded. The aunt you called last night might have been taken off guard by being asked such a question and wanted to get to the bottom of what was going on before replying to you. I think your reading way too much into this. And even if you find out the man you thought was your dad is not your dad will that change your relationship with him? Make you not love him? Take away the years he spent raising you? Sounds to me like you want to hear your dad isn't your dad. Do you need the drama in your life right now? Does it really change Who you are? I'd let it rest. Truth has a way of coming out it might not be the time for it to come out or it may already be out knowing that your dad is your dad. And maybe you sane aunt is afraid to talk to you about insane aunt because maybe there is a story there? Maybe insane aunt was dropped on her head or something and nobody wants to talk about it.
Actually, IMHO I think that
Actually, IMHO I think that you have nothing to worry about. I bet the Aunt who asked "Do you know the story of your birth" really meant: do you know that your mother was pregnant when she married your dad (since your mom has denied it all these years).
And your Mom was in tears since she is upset that her "shame" is being dragged out in public by crazy aunt.
If my Dad told me unchategorically that he is my father, I'd believe him every day and twice on Sundays before I'd believe a crazy, vindictive head case like your aunt!
Don't let her upset you or your family - christmas brings out the crazies!
I understand what you are
I understand what you are going through. I myself would wonder, what the heck... you should go to your Mom and Dad. tell them that the aunt sent you a message and you need to know. you have the right to know.
Thanks ladies - I sent the
Thanks ladies - I sent the mess to a child hood friend of my moms. She just sent me a mess back say she has no idea what the hell my aunt is talking about. She said my aunt is crazy and always has been. I don't believe my crazy aunt however when someone is as crazy as her sometimes they do have a little truth. But what really got me was what my other aunt said. now my other aunt is not talking and said she had to think on why she said what she said.
Here is the thing I get what you are saying about him being my dad b/c he is my dad. However what some are forgetting is that I don;t know if there is someone else out there that doesn't know he has a kid or what the circumstances are b/c no one TOLD ME! At least most of you know why you are with the people you are with. I don't know!
Purple Daisies let it go - I
Purple Daisies let it go - I am adopted and a few years ago found out about my Birth Father - he was married to another woman when my mother got pregnant was never there for me and was drunk and stumbled in front of a train and was cut in half and died when I was 4. The man who has raised you is your father and that is all that matters. And most men know if they are fathers are not - don't stir all this up before christmas - this is supposed to be a happy time for families. Don't drag your mother through this. The man that you call dad is your dad. My adopted Dad is my dad and the man that donated the sperm to the woman who had me is just that a sperm donor - I love my adopted Dad so much because he wanted me and wanted to take care of me and loved me - so if you really want to find out be prepared that you might not like what you find and the your "real" father if there is one may not want to be found. This situations can get really sticky so think very carefully about how you want to proceed - you could be stirring up things that you have no idea what could happen.
If you love the man you call dad that is enough - my prayers are with you!
Thanks caregiver I'm not
Thanks caregiver I'm not going to say anything to mom or dad till after the holidays. I've just been doing some digging with other people right now. I know that I may not like what I find out. I don't know just all too confusing for me right now. Thanks
But I just found out that mom and dad were only dating a few weeks before they got married and I know that mom was 3 months preggo with me before they got married. Now I know why we don;t know the story of how they met and how long there were dating. Mom would never talk about it.
Depending on your age PD -
Depending on your age PD - back then it was not as accepted as it is now to be pregnant and not married - I just think you have to be thankful that your dad whether real or not stepped up and was your dad - so make sure you don't hurt him as well - he has been really good to you and you never want to hurt him.
I have never tried to find my birth mother because my adoptive parents were so great and I know that looking for her would have really hurt them and even though my mother is dead I still won't look for my birth mother - I would rather just keep the great memories and not add any more heartache to my life!!
My moms child hood friend
My moms child hood friend said that mom and dad were dating a few weeks then got married. that would mean that mom was already preggo with me before she met dad! I told her as much then she said no wait they were dating 3 months! ok??
Yes they both love me and
Yes they both love me and they just took me to lunch. They didn't conform or deny that dad is my dad but what they did was better. Dad was saying how this has effected him and our family and that he wants to hurt my aunt so bad he can't stand her. Then mom said look what it is doing to purple? That made me cry. I'm tearing up right now. I'm going to let it go. Dad is my dad. Thanks ladies for the support.
Dad said he couldn't sleep over this whole thing and he even contacted an attorney to get a restraining order against my aunt. He told me he is going to contact face book and he wants to press charges. WOW
Purple Daisies - My dad is
Purple Daisies - My dad is my dad - says it all!! Merry Christmas!!
Please try not to worry
Please try not to worry yourself over this anymore. Talking to anyone other than your mom and dad isn't going to do you any good. Either ask them directly or let it go, but quit beating around the bush by asking everyone else. Your Aunt's intent was to upset you, she's accomplished that. I'm sure she's quite proud of herself right now.
Thanks thatgirl, I am letting
Thanks thatgirl, I am letting it go as they just took me to lunch and everything is much better.