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Who here not only needs to deal with their SKIDS but also DH fam. Acting like skids have no SM?

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Sat, 10/13/2012 - 12:34am

I have been SD SM for 9 yrs n till this day when ever we are at DH fam party or a gathering I cannot act ike a SM because his fam imedietly butt in as if I dont take care of her they wont even ask me "would u like me to serve her.. Can we take her..exct" they probably assume they have more right since they are blood related n im just plain o step mom..it bothers me n ive told DH 2 tell his fam to respect but I guess he feels bad..am I over reacting?

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Submitted by momof3vt on Sat, 10/13/2012 - 6:22am

oh my MIL is like that. I have been SM to SD15 for 10 years. Yet MIL will always make plans with SD15 without running it by us first (not even bothering with BD17 or BD6) We actually told her a few years ago she better realize how many grandkids she has or she was no longer welcome to stay in our home. My favorite was last winter when they were visiting and SD was playing basketball. One of her games got changed to the day of DH's birthday and we had plans to go meet him for lunch(he was working). When the game got changed I told DH I would have to meet up with him later. At that point MIL says oh you two can still have lunch, I'll take SD to her game, she's not yours anyway. WTF?! Mind you this wasn't any game but a playoff game!

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Sat, 10/13/2012 - 11:13am

MIL also takes SD n never my bio..we have also told her to b fair but she'll just play drama queen n say im ungrateful..

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Sat, 10/13/2012 - 12:19pm

How sad that she probably only has a "relationship" with her grandkids because she practicaly bought them..

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Submitted by borrowedtime83 on Sat, 10/13/2012 - 5:14pm

Yup. MIL ignores all SD's whiny bratty behavior, yet is the first to yell at my kids if they forget a please or thank you. She also leaves my kids out of everything and makes special plans with SD all the time. She buys her anything her heart could desire and I am left explaining to my kids how life isn't fair when she pulls this crap. I am to the point that I no longer wish to attend gatherings with his family. If it were a matter of money or finances I would be understanding, but it isn't. They have a whopping 2 bio grandkids, MIL has 2 small businesses and her hubby is an engineer employed the the govt and is a veteran. They could easily afford to include my 2 kids, but don't. My parents have 3 teenagers still at home, and include SD as one of their 8 grandkids, and always provide fairly to their ability. It gets overwhelmmingly aggravating.

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Submitted by prettyinpink on Sat, 10/13/2012 - 8:53pm

My MIL does include my bios but I would say maybe 80 to 90% but that still isnt fair because my kids c it n like I said maybe its their way of kinda making up for loss time but I cant say it enough its not my bios fault, they are also their grandkids it should b FAIR ALL THE TIME..

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Submitted by borrowedtime83 on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 12:25pm

Any inclusion at all would be a step up in my situation, it gets frustrating trying to smooth it over and keep the peace. We have enough to deal with as SM's and parents in general, this is something that just causes more drama in dealing with skids and bios. My MIL bought the 2 bio grands new bicycles, helmets...etc for Easter and I had my kids with me, too. They got nothing and had to sit watching the biogrands riding the new bikes. The least they could have done was let us know so I could have brought my kids bikes with and they wouldn't have to be bored AND excluded.