My weekend, your weekend
BM is apparently complaining because the week long vacation that we've planned starts on what is "technically her weekend." I would like to know how she expects BF to get SS for two weeks over the summer and one of those weekends to NOT fall on what would have "normally" been her weekend. Funny how it's OK for her to plan trips and activities on what would "normally" be BF's time and expect him to just deal with it. But when BF has been more than accomodating to her about this summer vacation in order to ensure that we will be able to take SS with us without too much drama on her part, all she can do is gripe about it.
*eyeroll*
The one positive thing that I can glean out of this is that she's complaining in a letter, complete with dates and details on who has SS when over the summer. I'm sure we can use this to our benefit if she decides to flip out and run away with him to keep him from going with BF on one of these scheduled visits.
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She sounds like a jerk!
She sounds like a jerk! So she can ask to take SS on your weekend, because she has some plans, but then if BF and you want to take SS on her weekend, it's a crime? I hope you are right about her letter and that she paints herself into a corner. Can't she even just take him 2 weekends in a row, so that when it's "her" weekend, you can take him on vacation? Then she gets him 2 weekends, then your husband gets him 2 weekends, and then you go back to normal schedule. That's how we have in the past worked it with BM on this end and it actually ended up being OK.
I know in our custody
I know in our custody agreement all "holidays", summer vacation being one, supersedes normal visitation. Is there a clause for this in yours?
Yes
Yes, that's why I think this is so asinine. Regardless of whether she would normally have SS on that weekend or not, this is a week-long vacation scheduled via the rules in the parenting plan, which supercedes the normal visitation schedule.
I don't think that BF should have to give her time to make up for this time, because he gets 14 consecutive days over the summer with SS per the parenting plan. It's inevitable that some of those days will fall on what would have normally been BM's weekend. Technically ALL of that time would have been BM's time because she has him all weekdays, we only have him EOWE. You can't gripe about the loss of weekends without griping about the loss of weekdays too...otherwise it just doesn't make sense in my opinion. They're ALL missed days, weekends and weekdays.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Does she understand what
Does she understand what supersedes means? She doesn't get to make up the time, period. I would just quote, in writing, verbatim the parenting plan to her.
Reminds me of my ex
My daughter's dad used to do the same thing. He always wanted to switch around to suit himself but gave me a hard time when I asked. He laid quite a bit of PAS on her (she was 3 when we split) but in the long run, my house was her house and she has a relationship with him but doesn't really respect him that much. 15 long years, I tell you. We had week on/week off which was flavor of the month back then. Hard on kids.
That is one thing we HAVE
That is one thing we HAVE NEVER done. We have made BM stick 110% to the parenting plan. NO switching or changing etc. It is clear to her not to even bother trying. She used to and the answer every single time was no. You give in once and they want to do it all the time.