He's not your husband anymore!
Grrr this frustrates me to no end! Am I crazy or when two people get divorced aren't they supposed to stop referring to each other as husband and wife? Every time biomom refers to my bf, she calls him her husband, hubby, etc. She refers to herself as his wife. You are divorced! He's not your husband anymore! What is WITH this woman? It's sick to still refer to him as your husband when you've been divorced for a long time now. If he had died I could understand...but he didn't die, he LEFT YOU! You're not his wife anymore! I know that she's only saying it to get on my nerves (which if you couldn't tell is working), either that or she's seriously messed up in the head. Luckily I am level-headed enough that I don't mention or let on how much it bothers me, or even so much as correct her. But GOODNESS every time she says that I want to scream HE'S NOT YOUR HUSBAND ANYMORE!
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To answer your question, he doesn't say anything because I don't think he even knows. He avoids talking to her like the plague, and I for the most part keep him out of the loop on the things that she's saying to me anymore (I used to tell him everything but after years with nothing ever changing and both of us only being more stressed out at the frequent topic of conversation, I decided it was much more healthy and productive for our relationship to just ignore it or keep to myself what I don't ignore). Most of it is when she's griping at me, "You need to have my husband call me/my son," "You have my husband, you will not get my son"...stuff like that. Her online alter-egos (she is constantly contacting me through aliases online trying to scare me off, preach at me, or gain information about me and my BF...I've been putting up with this psycho crap for years) also refer to him as her husband and her as his wife still. Her and these alter egos are the only people screwed up to use these monikers. One used the phrase "his wife" in reference to her today, and I said "[my bf] doesn't have a wife, but I assume you're talking about [biomom]."
It almost feels like she's trying to exercise her possession by continuing to use the phrase. She has a habit of pointing out that SS is "MY son" not just "my son" or "our son". She's used the capital MY in reference to husband several times as well. I don't understand her need to point out her possession of these people to me as if they are objects. The only place that I refer to bf as "my bf" is here, and while I say that I only use it as a code-name and not to flaunt my possession of him; everywhere else I have enough respect for him to call him by his name.
Sorry that I wandered so far off topic there but as you can see there's a lot of history to this situation that I have yet to share with everyone!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Haha!
To me it just makes her look stupid! When she does it again just look at your BF, giggle and turn your head as if you are trying hide the fact that you are laughing so as not to hurt her feelings because its obvious that she is SAD!
100% agree
this does make her look really stupid...great recommendation...I think the giggling part would be really effective too.
So funny...
Fearless...that was great! I am sitting here LMAO. By the way..I love your new name. I think that would be a great comeback to this ex who obviously has no self-esteem. Nymh I give you credit for not hauling off and smacking that chick.
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Sometimes I really wish I could. Sometimes I wonder if a good ol' ass-kickin' would make her leave me alone. I've tried being diplomatic and rational for years...maybe I need to just kick her miserable butt!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Maybe...
Nothing wrong with a good, OL ASS KICKIN.. She sounds like a fruit cake.. As an ex-wife myself.. I would never say I am his wife.. No that ended a long time ago and I am totally fine with it.. She is trying to get to you and its working but it sounds to me like she has been doing it for years.. When are you and the BF getting married? I think that maybe you all should think about that.. And then you can be the wife..
I would be just like you, I would have to FINALLY say something.. When she was stanfing there and referred to your man as her husband I would have to say thats funny I thought the divorce was final a long time ago.. I would have to put her in her place.. My heavens..
She must be all screwed up
She must be all screwed up in her head! She is fantasizing about still being married. What a wacko! Tell her the next time she says it to wake up and smell the coffee! What a dumbnut!
-happy mom
That was my first thought
That was my first thought too... marry him so she cant say that anymore but then I thought, wrong reason to get married! You need to marry because YOU want to and not to shut this woman up. But... just for a laugh, you could always put on a BIG FAT wedding ring the next time you see her and make sure she sees it! If she asks, say "oh yes, didnt I mention it, we got married a couple of months ago". That may shut her up? Ahhh hahaha
Good One..
I certainly shoudl have put in there that they should get married for love.. Oops.. Marry for the right reasons..
I like yours though.. Mess with her as hard as you can.. Then of course put tha post on of her reaction..
Feels good to be evil once in a while....
OMG...even wearing a BIG diamond for her to see! And practice saying "Mrs Nymh so&so" and have your freinds make a big fuss!!!
Boy the sh*t will hit the fan!!!!!!!!!
.......or at least have evil thoughts, even if we'd never do it!
Update:
She sent me an email the other day which said, amongst other things:
I want you to remember that I
will always be more his wife than you will ever come close
to being, not that I want to be, but those are the cold hard
facts!
Good grief, will this woman never learn? Everyone that hears about her saying these things thinks she's gone over the deep end - even her own FRIENDS!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
WOW..
I just have to ask, how old is this woman? I do not understand what she thinks she is gaining by emailing you things like that. How does she think that. They are not even together anymore. I mean your either the wife or your not. She sounds like a nut job. I would have to print all those emails out and keep them for good laughs. She sounds just plain old jealous if you ask me. Very sad that she has to be that way. Her comment "not that I want to be" if she didn't want to be she would never email you things of this nature.
Wow thank gosh I do not have to deal with a woman like that.. OH MY..
Well you have a great day..
Smile- shes jealous of you.. And if anything that should make you feel good.. I know it would me in a way.. You know the little meanie in me..
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She is in her mid- to late-thirties. I don't know what she thinks she has to gain by sending me this crap. The only think I can figure is she just wants to push my buttons to exercise her "power" over me. I get so disappointed with myself because I eventually always give in and end up arguing with her, thus proving that she DOES bother me and she's getting the response she's probably looking for. I wish I could just ignore her completely!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
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That could be arranged!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I will call her for you..
I think each of us should pick someone else to call the ex's and tell them off. That way we do not feel like we have to be the bigger person.
If I met a woman and she was the ex and always being a constent part of there ex's life I would have to tell them straight up and ask what the hell they were doing.. OOH..
Well for this woman to be in her mid 30's she should be old enough to know better.. What the hell.. I am in the beginnings of my 30's and act more mature then her.. Maybe if she would get a life she would leave you alone..
But then on the other side I could stoop to her level and win.. Thats just me though I am very hard.. I do not take a lot of crap. Like I told my husband a couple of days ago you know what you either tell your ex or I will and I do not think you want me to tell her.. Because lets face it I AM A BITCH And I am good at it when I want to be.. I would have her in tears.. So I am trying to be mature.. its not working very well huh....
I consider myself a peacful
I consider myself a peacful woman but those are fightin words
Planet ex..
Well, dear Nymph, sounds to me as though you have to treat this one by landing along side on her little fantasy planet. Write her an email back something like:
Dear .....
Thank you so much for your email, it just confirms what I have always known; that you were the best thing that ever happened to your husband. I know that I will never be able to live up to you in his eyes and I lose a lot of sleep, am on anti depressants and am seeing a therapist due to this. Its destroying us... I can only hope that one day, I will be able to amount to a fraction of the woman you are so that .... (BF name) and I may have a chance at happiness...
Sincerely yours,
.....
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I love this! I really think I should do this sometime soon! She'd probably just call me a f$&%$ b#$(@ like she does about everything else I say. I swear I don't think she actually reads the things that I say, she just rambles on and on about whatever she feels like griping about at the moment. I'd really like to see her reaction to this! If I do it I'll definitely post her reply
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Love it, KarenB!
Planet ex! It does seem like we are living in some alternate universe! No wonder I can't breathe half of the time - oops, time for re-entry! Let me adjust my mask!
You wouldn't understand unless you live there - which is why I love this site!
She is very jealous of you
She is very jealous of you and your relationship with BF. You are succeeding where she failed...she is a sad and bitter women.
I love your idea
I love your idea happy.....should we start posting the phone numbers with names and who's ex it is?
ME FIRST!!! ME FIRST!!!!
LMAO
Lisa Dawn
I am not even kidding..
I am going to do a post.. I have so much to post.. OMG..
Happy
" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..
You could say
YOU _____ are his ex wife, and I'm the person that he goes to bed with every night and wakes up with.