This doesn't make sense to me

In the past, whenever Skids got failing grades, BM didn't give a rats ass.

They were never grounded or expected to do anything to bring the grades up.

Now that BM married some guy last spring, Skids are grounded to their rooms and don't get any scenes if they bring home failing grades. I hear this and I'm like, Ok great finally Skids are being held accountable.

Problem is SS9 is being grounded to his room but no adults are helping him with his work. I did 10hr of homework with SS this past weekend....Let me repeat that 10HRS.

How can a responsible adult say to themselves "I'm going to ground SS9 to his room and that's it. He's on his own to bring up grades."

Maybe I'm being bias towards SS here, but I would never ground a kid to his room for failing grades and then Not help said child to improve.

To me punishing a child SS's age is about more than the punishment. They need to be helped to make things right.

I feel like SF doesn't want to deal with SS and grounding him to his room is his way of "locking him up and throwing away the key" Nothing more is needed.

I want to say to SF "Man I get it, I really do. SS can be a royal pain in the ass. Take what you have been through the last 1yr of knowing the kid and multiply it by 6. But grounding the kid just to get rid of him isn't going to do him or you any favors in the long run.

Maybe SF thinks not my kids not my problem, but I think if BM is giving him enough power in the house to ground SS then SF should also be stepping up and helping with homework.

Ok, now everyone tell me I'm wrong. Not SF's monkey not his circus.....Just wondering how anyone else would feel in this situation.

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BM works nights so no adult

BM works nights so no adult has ever been there with SKids. It only ever been their older brother who is now 16.

I guess I personally would help SS with homework if he lived with us and SO worked nights. To me that's what adults do.

I know it's wrong for me to say, If I would do it why can't SF, but I can't help but feel bad for SS. He's grounded and no adults at BM's house are helping him.

I agree with you Ninji's,

I agree with you Ninji's, while I get the grounding as a punishment for failing grades but they do need to help him with his homework. It would be different if he was 13/14 but at 9 how is he supposed to learn if he doesn't understand his home work and has no one (other then you) to help him.

I still help my 11 yr with her home work as she has just gone to senior school and she gets a lot more, and harder then at primary school. And she is still finding her way.

Unfortunately, SS is not able

Unfortunately, SS is not able to complete some of his homework without an adult. For example, he has to do spelling homework every night. At least two of those assignment specially says "Have an adult read off the words....." And the homework assignment sheet is supposed to be signed every night by an adult. Same with multiplication tables he has homework on every night.

I tried to have SD do it for

I tried to have SD do it for me one weekend but they got into a huge fight. Don't get me wrong I love SS and want the best for him, but he is a jackass a lot of the time. He doesn't have any friends. That's why I get SF wanting to ground him to his room and not have to deal with him, but that's not going to help SS any.

I've never seen anything

I've never seen anything about online spelling, but he does have an online multiplication site to help with that homework, but he's grounded from screens now at BM's and so can't use it and no one is going over flashcards or anything else to do the nightly multiplication homework. It's a mess.