Just wanted to update those following my story.
I'm trying to remember change isn't over night and be happy with progress. So SO needed me to watch SD10 and he forgot to ask until right before he was leaving. But he did ask. Baby steps. He also has begun to discipline for the peeing. And HUGE shocker its improving! She was mad that she didn't get her way yesterday so she came home from school in wet pants. Funny thing she waited until AFTER school so as to not be embarrassed. So she spent the evening in her room besides dinner and helping clean up the pee! :jawdrop: To top it off I haven't heard mention of BM2. There are several things we aren't doing so well on but hey I'm trying to see the good and efforts that are there. All in all this is a pretty content SM right now.