After this summer, when we were in a lather about getting custody of SD15, we've pretty much backed off.

The lawyer told us that our chances were slim to fucking none, and the odds were extremely high that BM would be awarded court costs as well. Since that could easily run up to $40k (for both sides) we tried to get BM to show the crazy, either over the phone or in email.

All we got was religious platitudes and a refusal to speak to DH unless her husband was also on the line. So, no proof. Besides, she quit the verbal abuse, and hadn't laid a hand on SD15 for a while.

Well, the BPD is back. I can honestly say I am not surprised. She blows up about SD15's "bad behavior" every six months, like clockwork.

This time... in BM's own words:

1) SD15 treats her brother like shit.
2) SD15 "acts like a fucking robot."
3) SD15 "is a cold-hearted bitch."

a) SD15 is almost 16. Her brother is a whiny-ass, morbidly obese, almost 8-yr-old. SD15 is stuck babysitting him at least 16 hours a week without getting paid a dime. I would be sick of him too, just by virtue of him being a little brother.

b) Acting like a robot is a seriously bad sign. People do that in order to avoid triggering an unstable person. It's a method of coping with emotional distress. I'm going to blame BM for this one.

c) Just because SD15 is sick and tired of BM's drama doesn't mean she is cold-hearted, nor a bitch. I have NEVER in my life met a warmer, kinder, more generous and caring teenager. I think SD15 has checked out of catering to BM's madness.

Let's not mention BM wanting to have SD15 examined by a GYN in order to confirm her virginity and forcing SD15 to live in the guest room because "it's too easy to sneak out" of her bedroom... when the girl hasn't had a boyfriend for almost two years and isn't interested because she sees the knocked up teenager drama every day at the shitty school she's in...

So ladies! Document the insanity!