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Submitted by msc1120 on Mon, 06/04/2012 - 8:56am

Just sent stbxh an email (which I saved a copy of) of the things I want from the house. Now I just sit back and wait to see how much hell he raises even though my list isn't unreasonable (which it should be, I should take EVERYTHING). The only thing I feel even remotely bad about taking is the washer and dryer since I have access to my mom's and I really would like to have new ones anyway. I'm sure his little girlfriend will have something to say about all of it.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Mon, 06/04/2012 - 9:38am

It is a lot easier to keep property your residing in. I know you left for good reason if there is anyway he's continued to make you feel stalked and threatened and you can get back in the house do it then file for a ppo or ro depending what your state calls it. Include the marital home as property he's to stay away from. My lawyer told me I could be change the locks but as we were told still married he could legally break in but I could get recourse for it in the divorce unless I could get a RO i had no need to get one nor a base for one but changed them anyway ex flipped out but that was all just ranted a bit. I'd sue the gf if your state has the criminal conversation and alienation of affection laws still wish I had in my situation but I usex the threat as leverage to get what I wanted in the divorce. Dont take any of this lying down.

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Submitted by msc1120 on Mon, 06/04/2012 - 9:46am

Thanks Lalena!! I'm definetly not going to just be a pushover the way he thought I was. It's nothing as dramatic as being threatened or anything like that he's stayed away from me because he knows he f'ed up cheating on me. If he wants this new girl then so be it. I told him I was willing to work on saving our marriage and he doesn't want that. I'm just not going to let him walk all over me and keep everything in the house. I'm trying to remail tactful through all this as best I can. The only thing I really want is him to buy me out of our house so I can get on with my life.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Mon, 06/04/2012 - 10:17am

speaking from experience here: Make sure in your separation agreement that you have and ACTUAL date he has to buy you out by. I made the mistake of signing the agreement that said he had to do it in a reasonable amount of time. 2 years later and I am dealing with a short sale on my credit report and he is living in the home not paying a dime!!

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Submitted by msc1120 on Mon, 06/04/2012 - 10:42am

Thank you overworked!! I'ma jot that down on my "things to remember" list cause I sure hadn't thought about that yet. I don't want him to be sitting pretty in a house he's not paying for with my name on it.