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I'm not going to grant him an annulment

MrsFitMama's picture

Submitted by MrsFitMama on Mon, 08/08/2011 - 9:06pm

I've decided divorce against this man... his stepmom is even caught off guard by his actions, but then she admits she doesn't know him that well.

He doesn't care about me and the baby. After all the stress he has caused... who says to their pregnant wife, on top of everything else he has done, I want an annulment?

SD brings up the baby... he can care less if he is involved. He said, "if you say fuck off, I will" but if you want child support, then I want visitation.
Obviously, he really doesn't care. With his verbal abuse, would that even be ok for my baby to be around??? It's only as if he's going to pay money out, he wants to see something for his purchase. Otherwise if he isn't paying, then me and the baby can go our "merry" way.

Does that seem like someone who deserves to be around my baby??

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anabihibik's picture

Submitted by anabihibik on Mon, 08/08/2011 - 9:46pm

Your husband makes me :sick: You'll be ok without him. You'll find a way to make things work.

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Submitted by MrsFitMama on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 9:58am

How do I get an attorney with no money???
And yes that is me but I've been so sick in the pregnancy that I haven't been able to get to the gym in 4 months... I have lost at least 10 lbs...

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 1:12am

Tell him I don't want anything from you, except your parental rights revoked. That way he won't "have" to pay you or have visitation. You can do a much better job raising this child alone without any input from him.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 5:25am

I think you should talk to an attorney in your state (your new state?). He does need to pay child support so if an annulment would forfeit that I would not do it. Where I am parents are not allowed to forfeit child support.

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Submitted by SusiQ on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 6:53am

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but an annulment does nothing to his rights as a father. It basically says your marriage doesn't exist in the eyes of God. Did you get married in the church? Was he married before in the church? Also, he can get one even if you don't want one.

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Submitted by MrsFitMama on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 10:01am

I read that to get any divorce or annulment, you have to live in AZ at least 60 days. So I would have to file in CA... the statutes for annulment would be incest, underage, unsound mind, fraud, force, unconsummated, things of that nature.

He has never been married before and it was through JP.

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Submitted by SusiQ on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 11:40am

If your guys aren't catholic or not married in the catholic church then you wouldn't get an annulment - that is basically a church divorce and just means either of you are free to marry within the church. I know there are a few on here who have gone thru the process - My DH wouldn't at the time but I'm working on it.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 7:41am

Sorry, but I'd play hardball. Document all of the creepy things he has said and done.. like how he wanted to kill his ex wife, how he spanked your SD until she peed her pants etc. etc. Build a case for him to be deemed an unfit parent. Call the Ex-wife and have a little chitty chat about the abuse he pawned off on her because I guarantee he is not just starting this behavior with you.

Go after him for child support! Sure, a judge may grant him visitation but most likely with his track record, it would be only be supervised visitation and I can't imagine this creep would go for that.

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Submitted by MrsFitMama on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 10:06am

I'm worried about contacting his ex though because she's a piece of work too and not exactly a fit parent either. She is marrying a convicted felon who has 4 duis with vehicular manslaughter... and pocession of narcotics...