Just want to say before i start that this is mostly a vent. I don't need any advice about it as i cant be stopped and it is just him. I am counting down the days until we get rid of him (if that ever actually happens) and I am aware that this is probably part of his AS symptoms. It still drives me mad though. Just because he is on the very light end of AS does not mean i have to ignore his weird attitudes and over the top sensory issues. I don't feel I have to play into them as i have long felt that it is just his way of getting things on his terms all the time.

So, PILLOWGATE.   As I said we bought new pillows for the beds. SS always has rather strong smelling greasy hair ( I am onto this but it's proving hard to change) and he dribbles at night all over the pillow and they tend to get very stained. Actually I should mention that he has a weird habit of cutting the satin feel labels out of clothes and then sucks and fondles them at night . I'm sure this causes a lot of dribbling. Again, like a little kid. He has had a doctors check up and there is nothing wrong with him with regard to hair and dribbling.

These pillows are good quality memory foam pillows. Not cheap. I didn't want it stained and ruined  so I put a special protector cover on it. Well, I gave it to SS to put on it.  I go in there this morning and he has taken the pillow cover and it is screwed up under his pillow. !! ?????  I suspect there was something he will find about the pillow cover to whinge about.

Someone said to me on my last blog about the bed time that I am lucky because he is 18 and it won't be long soon. I wish I could feel like that. Him getting older and his going getting closer makes me even more desperate for it to hurry up. Makes me even more sick of his sh** because at 18 he should have learned to get on with things. He still acts like a babyish 6 year old a lot of the time with his 'poor little me' attitude.

So now I have to have another battle to get the new pillow protected? DH is naturally getting a bit sick of all this too. He is a very laid back sort of person. I don't think this helped along with BM who never parented at all and produced kids who don't know how to wash properly and think that it's normal not to use antiperspirant or deodorant or even actually wash yourself with soap etc. They just got in the bath, played and got out, I don't think anyone actually taught them to wash then play a bit after. Trying to tackle older kids with smelly bodies is probably a pointless task but who wants to live with stinkiness?. I cannot understand how an adult who is so attentive to his hygiene can not think to school his kids the same way. God knows what BM was doing. She is a dirty one anyone from what i've heard.

I digress.  The protector goes back on the pillow and the skirmish continues. And yes, before anyone says it, I AM rather obsessed by this. I think it's a manifestation of my total irritation and anger at his wider behaviour problems and attitude. (see my BIO)