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Submitted by mndblwn on Sun, 10/23/2011 - 9:01pm

Our court order with BM has really helped both my DH and I deal with her. We love to ignore the nonsense of emails, voicemails and texts now that we have papers to back us up. Sounds like we are pushovers but BM can't stand it and shuts her mouth when we put the court order to her. Thank the lord.
Bad news is that she will continue to bug anyway she can and try to turn her wrong doings into us doing her wrong. I loved when i gave toys back to her that skid brought home. She got her attitude out and once she took the bag I turned right around. She will be sweet and want to talk with my DH but she knows better when she has to deal with me. I put it to her and expect no bs.

Thank god her work schedule is changing and she is actually being an adult with a full time job and insurance for her kid for once. Hopefully she will back off enough for DH to gain back the primary custody that he deserves.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 10/24/2011 - 1:27pm

Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding .... you are a WINNER!

I am truly excited for you and your family.

The CO is definately the best tool for controlling the oppostion and keeping your blended family as healthy as possible.

There is nothing quite like rolling the CO up and smacking them about the head and shoulders when they get stupid. Even better and is often the case is when they don't read the CO that applies just as much to you as it does to them.

The person who knows and enforces the CO has the power and control in a blened family oppostion situation.

We did this for 17+ years with my SS-19's CO and and SpermClan.

In our experience you have found the best tool for protecting the best interests of your Skids and your family.

I wish more SParents could come to this conclusion and use the CO to maintain control over the oppositionwhen they will not work reasonably for the best interest of the kids.