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Submitted by mndblwn on Fri, 04/22/2011 - 5:13pm

So the BM attorney told my and DH to act like adults when it comes to visitation rights and who can pick up and take SS6. This woman has called DH and i fat, stupid, uneducated and mentally abusive. all our recorded under text message. how long should DH and i have to wait until we say only contact between parents can be made between email unless there is a medical emergency. We only got a home phone for the BM to call her son yet she still uses my DH cell. it's very frustrating and rude. her new bf even gets in the mix yet we haven't said one word about him. she truly is crazy and either bipolar or has multiple personalities. I hate going on drop offs too because i can't stand looking at her. shall i do it for the kid or my sanity?

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GoodbyeNormaJean's picture

Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 04/22/2011 - 5:21pm

Reduce contact to email for non emergencies as of
yesterdy. Don't engage her at all regarding anything other than things that pertain directly to SS. Don't answer the cell phone. Make her leave a message. Have SS return her calls on the home phone only. They can be trained, even the stupidest most stubborn can be trained.

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Submitted by mom2five on Fri, 04/22/2011 - 9:11pm

He doesn't have to answer his cell. If it's important, she'll leave a message. Have your SS answer the home phone when his mother calls. If she asks to talk to your DH, he can get on the phone and quickly reply with "Hey...could you email me about this...I really don't have time to talk right now. Thanks. Bye."

You said that you "hate" going on drop offs. So don't go. Let your DH handle it.

Minimize the opportunity for drama and you completely take away her power.

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Submitted by shelandmegsmom on Sat, 04/23/2011 - 12:43am

Oh Lord we used to deal with this too. We only communicate now with BM through email. period. No texts either. She "textually assaulted" me one day while I was working with 50 texts accusing me of holding out on giving her SD's insurance card. That is one reason why DH does not carry SD on his insurance anymore. I like one of the other posters ideas. don't answer her calls, get SS to call her back on house phone. She has to learn that she cannot dictate what goes on in your house. It took us a while to train our walrus, but she has ultimately gotten the picture.
btw: i did consult any attorney about the harrassment on phone to me and DH and text to me but he said getting a court order would mean that she would not be responsible to notify us if SD had serious medical issue or something.