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MidwestStepmom's picture

Submitted by MidwestStepmom on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 1:56pm

So dh called Bm the other night to get her to send him a screen shot of ss13 homework. Ss is failing 3 7th grade classes because refuses to hand in homework. Dh has made it know that his weekends are going to be homework and nothing else until his grades are brought up. So Bm tells dh that they also need to discuss a situation she just encountered. She found a pair of her underwear in ss bedroom, she them asked if Midwest stepmom experienced anything go like this. He said no and ended the conversation.

Last night dh took ss back to the drop off location. I decided to go look through ss room. I look under his bed and found a bunch of food wrappers (broke a house rule). Then I saw some wrappers coming out of the wooden slats (he has an ikea bed frame). I lift up the corner and found a pair of my underwear! I text dh and said we need to talk. I to back into the room and lifted more of the mattress up and found my bra! This bra was recently taken, it's one I usally wear and was unable to find it last week.

Dh got home and I freaked out. I don't want ss here, I have a bs9months to think about. I have no idea if these behaviors are the starting point of something. Dh disagreed, we came up with taking him to a therapist and dh will have that awkward talk.

I left the items in his room, right by his door. I want him to walk in and have that stomach falling to the floor feeling.

Dh and I don't want to tell Bm that this has also happened at our house. She made up allegations about me 9 years ago and I don't need her trying to turn anything around.

Has anyone experienced this before? How did you handle this?

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somedevilishbeauty's picture

Submitted by somedevilishbeauty on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 2:09pm

what the hell would he want with his moms and step moms "lovleys" He's not wearing them is he???

just.his.wife's picture

Submitted by just.his.wife on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 2:10pm

Um Ew.
Beyond ew this went straight into a fucking disgusting rating real fast.

This should not have to be said: but NO electronics... last thing the perv needs is access to the internet to find another disgusting kinky perversion to try.

(And yeah... stealing his MOMS panties?!?!? I can ALMOST understand the step mom... your female.. your unrelated by blood... but his fucking MOTHERS?!??? Does the scent remind him of his first "home?!?")

Some teenage boys are curious about girls items.
Some teenage boys enjoy the feel of the silk and lace.
Some teenage boys will snag a bra... just to figure out how to UNHOOK it so.. if and when a girl gives them a chance to unhook one in person.. .they know how.

And lets face it, some teenage boys like dressing up in girls items.
Ask the kid point blank of he is dressing up/curious/etc

Then ground the ever loving SNOT out of him for stealing your shit.
Remind him, if he wants a bra or girl panties of his own, he can save up his OWN money to get them!!

MidwestStepmom's picture

Submitted by MidwestStepmom on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 2:25pm

All electronics have been taken away. He was made to leave his DS here, but that was before we knew this. He had to leave it here due to his grades. Just today I took the TV out of his room. He doesn't have computer access here. We have a crappy old laptop that never works, you have to move it in every direction to keep it on. We have an iPad but it has the finger locking password on it. Ss has never been allowed to touch it.

I did forget to mention that he took clean items from my drawer. It's still disgusting, but it would have 100 times worse if he dirty ones.

I have no idea about his moms.

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Submitted by jstorie on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 3:16pm

put a lock on your door! im afraid you not telling bm will bite u in the butt! what if he goes back and says im in trouble for all of this....blah blah and blah. counsling is a great idea! suite up for a long road. document everything, u don't want this comming back on you.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 01/20/2015 - 4:04pm

Um I watch all those Kid Killer shows. Almost all of them start out with:

1. problem kid who steals undies from female relative (mom, sister, stepmom, etc)
2. problem kid who abuses animals.

Seeing that the BM made accusations, I wouldn't get ANYWHERE NEAR this kid. Put a lock on the door and I DO like the idea of putting your "findings" right out there for him to see.