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I was here over a year ago and got really good advice. I stepped away at one point because I needed to concentrate on my family. A lot has happened since then but long story short DH is now going for full custody of my step son.
We have had him since Jan 12, his mother is acting irrational and we suspect drug use. She divorced her husband, gave up custody of her other two children to him. We know she is going to fight us on this one. She receives an SSI check for my stepson since he is autistic and she wants that money. I have heard her comment several times that she cares more for SS because he is special.
I am completely stressing over this and I know it isn't my place to stress over it. DH has to prove she is an unfit mom and I honestly don't know anymore how this is going to go. We thought we had enough but I don't know. It's all up to the judge now.
We attempted to have her sign a document this past weekend to get him into school and therapy and she refused to sign it. So every day he is falling more and more behind and we can't do anything about it. Every place we have called said we have to prove custody. She was verbally attacking me the entire time we were there and I wasn't even saying anything to her. I just came so that she couldn't lie on anything regarding my DH. She has tried multiple times to play us against each other.
I have nowhere to release all this so that's why I came back. I can't keep this stuff in anymore.
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Do you want this kid full
Do you want this kid full time, and have to put the time and effort because of his autistic ? Then fight for him. And give him a better life.
You will most likely not get any thing for your efforts. But you will be happy
That's what we are trying to
That's what we are trying to do. I try to help him as much as I can but there is only so much I can do. I know if he stays with her he will never reach his full potential. He is a super smart kid.
Welcome back! Use this to
Welcome back! Use this to vent! We're prepping for court too and I know this is a well needed escape with all the stress involved.
We know BM will try to fight because she uses the skids for financial gain... So I understand!
Thank you!
Thank you!
If you WANT full custody
If you WANT full custody document EVERYTHING. It seems to me that if you can show that she is being negligent in signing simple documents to get SS help at school, causing scenes at school, giving up custody of her other two children etc that a judge would not look favorably at all of that.
We have been documenting
We have been documenting everything for two years. Total she has actually given up 3 kids. The first one was years ago though so I don't know anything about that. Even the mundane stuff has been documented.
It's not HER check, it's his.
It's not HER check, it's his. March into a Social Security office & show THEM what you have. Prove he's living with you & she's keeping the money. It's pretty easy to prove she's not doing her duty & get her removed as his Social Security Representative Payee. Being ineligible to be Rep Payee may make her more willing to do right by this child.
My husband was going to do
My husband was going to do that but the lawyer advised us not to do that until after the court date. It makes it look like all we want is the check. Right now she is looking pretty bad since she is getting the check but doesn't have the child. He is still paying child support too but we have to wait on the court for that too.
It's not HER check, it's his.
It's not HER check, it's his. March into a Social Security office & show THEM what you have. Prove he's living with you & she's keeping the money. It's pretty easy to prove she's not doing her duty & get her removed as his Social Security Representative Payee. Being ineligible to be Rep Payee may make her more willing to do right by this child.