Had skids for 3 Solid Weeks and we owe HER child support
We usually have the kids from 630AM until 445PM Monday through Friday. SS5 is in kindgergarten, so we only see him for a few hours, but SS2 is here all day every day until 445 and on Saturday and Sunday EOW (when BM plays mommy).
Due to the Thanksgiving Holiday and BM not wanting to see them, we have now had the kids for about three weeks solid. BM has seen them a total of about 9 hours (honestly).
I am enfuriated that BM just won more CS in court less than two weeks ago.
We have the kids NONSTOP. Every day. She literally has them from 445PM through the night Monday through Thursday, and Saturday and Sunday EOW.
We have them the rest of the time. We do everything for them. We pick them up in the morning. Dress them. Bathe them. Brush their teeth and hair. We drop SS5 off at school AND pick him up.
But we're paying her f*cking child support.
So, we've had them for three weeks, and we have to be able to pay for taking care of them every one of those days, but we also have to pay HER as if she was taking care of them on those days.
What the hell is wrong the court system?
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Yea someone was not thinking
Yea someone was not thinking CS through at all. We used to get an abatement of 50% when sk were with us 7 consecutive days.
We had the for 6 days a lot. Or once she had sk come home for 18 hours out of 10 days. They weren't with us consecutive days though.
Seems that the best way is50/50 split each responsible for costs in the respective houses.
That's really what we want.
That's really what we want. The situation is ridiculous. We pay for every day twice. The judge keeps giving DH the run-around and saying he doesn't want to change the CO. He doesn't even explain why. He just says he doesn't want to. It's insane.
I'd really like to get CS eliminated. It's ridiculous. She makes more than DH. We have them the majority of the time. However, almost all of that time is listed in the CO as "child care" so we don't get any credit for it.
Yep, I got screwed in my
Yep, I got screwed in my divorce by a knucklehead lawyer who didn't do his job. When I fired him and got another lawyer to see if we could file some type of appeal in court because (even new lawyer agreed) my original divorce agreement was so poorly written, and totally one sided (to the joy of the ex-idiot), my new lawyer told me not to waste my money or time. That once an agreement is signed by two parties, and the judge has made a ruling, then it is pretty much set in stone, never to be changed/challenged.
Totally sucks. What I can't believe is that your BM is THAT much of a scumbag that she willingly takes the CS money every month, when she KNOWS she doesn't have the kids.
She is a scumbag and a
She is a scumbag and a nutcase. She spent way more dragging DH through the court system than she will ever recover in child support. Even the judge mentioned that fact.
She feels entitled to anything she can get. We are her free day care. We are her ATM. We are her emotional punching bag whenever the world isn't bending over backward for her.
I didn't know they were
I didn't know they were reviewed on how many CO's got overturned. That makes alot more sense now. Originaly, he told DH he couldn't have 50/50 because he didn't have a primary residence (he was rooming with a friend due to BM basically bankrupting him during the divorce).
Then when he got a primary residence, the judge claimed things seemed to be working the way they were.
Then he told DH that his contract wasn't a good enough reason to suggest that DH could take care of the boys the majority of the time.
Last time he literally said he did not want to change the CO and told DH he couldn't come back for a year.
At this point, I have no faith in the judicial system in this country at all. I can't believe this nonsense is happening.
To answer your question: more
To answer your question: more than could fill a dictionary.
A couple things I noticed when reading...
1. She has the kids most nights. Sadly, that's usually the deciding factor of who is "primary" parent.
In my SOs case,a 50-50 split, BM still got child support because:
1. BMs regular job was less than my husband was making on unemployment.
2. BM had the support hearing before the custody hearing and for some reason in my state, the still try to provide "equality in housing" through support.
-We do have a write in that stipulates the child's care is the person who is assigned custodial time, even if they are not present during their assigned day. (If BM wants to dropoff early-she's got to pay for the daycare cost associated with caring for SS).
It would make more sense if it was 50/50, you handle your time-I'll handle mine, but that's only if BM is able to provide.
I really don't get this
I really don't get this overnight thing.
Kids don't cost any money when they're asleep.
They are only over there from 445PM until 630AM, and she almost never feeds them breakfast.
DH's lawyer said that we could try to get her for reimburse for the amount the kids cost here each day, but then they would count it as "income" and child support would just go up! I am STILL pissed about that.
I can't believe they screwed you with that "equality in housing" crap. That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
Who the hell comes up with
Who the hell comes up with this nonsense? This is honestly the most idiotic thing I have ever encountered in my life. Kids don't cost money when they are asleep. They are totally free during that time period.