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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:13pm

So, when my fiancee gets ready to go out with his PSYCHO daughter on their weekly dinner outing you would think he was literally going on a date. He leaves work early...gets really really uptight if he thinks he is going to be late picking her up, he acts all giddy when he is getting ready and changing his clothes after work before he goes. IT'S SO ANNOYING AND CREEPY.

It makes me not like him. It's like on Wednesdays he's not my fiancee anymore....seriously. Then when he gets home he tries to be all loving and its like 9:00 pm or later and I am just irritated by the thought of the two of them hanging out together for hours and I remember when she lived here and their relationship was so inappropriate back then....she used to run his life and was the mini wife and it was so awful.

They seem to be getting closer and closer the more stuff he keeps buying her. The new IPhone didn't hurt.

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Submitted by bi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:18pm

how old is she? just curious, as her age doesn't change the fact that he is acting weird and creepy. i sure as hell don't act like that when my daughter and i have plans. i won't act like that when my son is older and i have plans with him, either. i would tell dh he's acting like a giddy schoolboy who is getting ready for prom. i would be too annoyed to keep my mouth shut.

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Submitted by JEEMudder on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:27pm

Same. I would be way too annoyed and creeped out to not make a huge issue out of that. I felt awkward just reading it. Lol

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:32pm

She is 15. And they have a history....she used to get into his bed. Put on fake fingernails and scratch his back, read all his texts (he let her), she once told me that they had a sexual relationship...which is part of the reason she is banned from our house. She used to walk around the house in her panties all day trying to bend over things for like five minute pauses... Like a complete fool.

He denies everything of course. Funny thing is...he has an admitted panty fetish and asks me to walk around in them!

I dunno. I found a bunch of pictures of her with her brothers...and she's in panties and a tank top... At age 13? The boys just say" that's ding dong for you! She always walks around in panties" like its no big deal.

It could go either way. Accusations are harsh though. I am surely not going to make any.

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:41pm

Men don't really do things with their daughters like that. I mean, not him. Surely not him.

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:39pm

We were Xmas shopping last week and he tried to tell me she has bigger breasts then me in a really rude way. I was trying on a northface coat for her and he was like...."well shichi, I don't know how to say this, but, and he got like a huge smile on his face kind of like he was all proud, ding dong is A LOT BIGGER THEN YOU IN THE CHEST. that coat will never fit her. And she really likes form fitting things. Things that show her shape".

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Submitted by bi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:42pm

what a f'g creep! i seriously don't know how you stand him! he's making me sick and i've never even met him! that's like you saying your teenage son has a bigger penis than him. wth is wrong with him? :O

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:44pm

I must be just being jealous or something. I mean....me and my dad never would have acted like that but I guess some daughters and fathers are just weird. His kids are alll three FREAKING weirdos.

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Submitted by bi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:46pm

you're not being jealous. you are justifiably grossed out by sickening behavior. i would be sick to my stomach and angry over all of it. i would not be able to stay with someone so disgusting.

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Submitted by JEEMudder on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:50pm

Ugh. Don't be that pathetic girl who blames herelf for her boyfriemd being a creeper. Ever comsider he is a child molesting inbreeding pervert from hell? Sounds that way to me!

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Submitted by Over_that_tude on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:56pm

:jawdrop: WOW...I believe you have a little Lolita in your life!

Please GET AWAY FROM THIS MADNESS! IT IS NOT YOU OVERREACTING, WHO DOES THIS? I was a daddy's girl through and through and never in a million years would I scratch his back sleep in bed with him past being a baby and I'd die if he saw me in my underwear past 10! Come on...please don't think it's in any that they are just "weird"...this is perverse and wrong on way too many levels!

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Submitted by uptohere on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:54pm

I'm having a hard time believing this story is real.

"Said she had a sexual relationship with him" and the girl is not in massive therapy? Really?
And he sees her alone on dates? After she said THAT about the two of them?

I don't believe it.

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:57pm

I swear to god I am not lying. Go back and read my previous blogs for months and months. I have no reason to lie. His x wife has a low IQ and gets $2000 a month and he's an attorney.

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:00pm

She is a constant liar. I mean, she told her therapist I abused her. Which I did not. Which is why I don't want to believe it. She lies about everything. Literally. Her mom knows this. I don't think she told her mom anything about the sexual relationship with dad. She told me that. I chalked it up to her not wanting us to be together.

It's a very confusing situation. It could go either way.

What's a lolita?

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:55pm

She is in therapy. Why doesn't she tell someone if there is something going on? Last week when I got in to the car the next day after he dropped her off the seat was rolled way way back, like someone would if they were taking a nap. The passenger seat I mean. I was like, "why is the seat rolled back so far?". And he was like....oh, ding dong did that. But why?

Now I am being silly.

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Submitted by JEEMudder on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:02pm

"Why doesn't she tell someone if there is something going on"

You said she did say they have had a sexual relationship?So she told someone, no?

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Submitted by JEEMudder on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 8:59pm

You should involve police. Srsly. Hate to break the news but DH sounds like an incestual child molester. I would be horrified in your shoes.

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:03pm

Thankfully, she is not allowed at our house. My concern is that their relationship is heating up again. If it was ever something in the first place.

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Submitted by JEEMudder on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:09pm

Seiously? Your only concern is that? You can crawl into bed with a potential child molester, and that is your only concern? I try not to be judgey on this site, so i am going to bow out of this convo. :O

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:06pm

Well, if I ask him he will deny it and freak out. What if I am just over reacting?

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Submitted by love_my_shichi on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:11pm

I refuse to believe its possible. What kind of man would actually be attracted to his own daughter? It only happens on TV.

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Submitted by stepmonster_2011 on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:15pm

WRONG.

It does happen in real life.

Seriously.

Aren't you the one that is waiting for the spring to bail out?

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Submitted by sunbeam0901 on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:16pm

You can bury your head in the sand all you like, that doesn't change the fact that there ARE disgusting creeps in the world who ARE attracted to and DO have sexual relationships with their daughters, and by the sound of it, your FDH is one of those creeps.

Have you considered following him discreetly to see where/what he is actually doing on these daddy/daughter "dates"?

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:24pm

You keep saying the girl liwd about her father. Yet everything you post about this guy screams that he has crossed the line with her.

This loser sounds like Chester the Molester.

I can't believe you(and YOUR DAUGHTER) continue to live with that sicko.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:32pm

You keep saying the girl lied about her father. Yet everything you post about this guy screams that he has crossed the line with her.

This loser sounds like Chester the Molester.

I can't believe you(and YOUR DAUGHTER) continue to live with that sicko.

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Submitted by StepDoormat on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 8:35am

I truly don't think shes trolling. Shes been posting these things for months. That would seriously be way too much effort for a troll.

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Submitted by Over_that_tude on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:34pm

This is sick...you are talking about a relationship between a father and his CHILD heating up as if it's an ex girlfriend. Something is wrong with this on way too many wrong and perverse levels.

Are you concerned at all that your fiancee is having an inappropriate and unhealthy relationship with his CHILD? Are you concerned that maybe, just maybe, as an adult you need to report this and if you don't you are not helping that CHILD at all? As a woman/daughter/sister/friend/insert whatever else you want, there is a responsibility, I believe anyway, to report this type of fuckery.

Okay...is this a joke? No really...seriously...is this one of those posts that are just thrown out there to stir things up a little.

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Submitted by Over_that_tude on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 9:42pm

AND you say you have a 15 yo daughter of your own living with you and this guy?

WOW...you are NOT (based on the crap you're posting here) a part of the solution, if this is true, you are a part of the problem.

I try to be objective...but this is bullsh*t!

Btw...Google "Lolita" yourself since you're on the net. Google, Long Island Lolita while your at it. She tried to kill the object of her boyfriend's affection...HIS WIFE, but she lived!

I'm done.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 10:11pm

I'm waiting for a relative to come pick her up, take her kid for a few days and then book her into a nice hotel with a spa.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 10:18pm

I think OP has a pretty good idea and just doesn't want to confront it. if it's even true..... it sounds wonky to me.

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 10:12pm

LMAO!

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 01/02/2013 - 10:10pm

You have been repeatedly advised to get out of your situation.

I don't even know what to say about this post. If it's true, then I will repeat myself. It's time for you to face some certain realities and move on with your life.

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 5:03am

I'd give him an ice pick to the balls before I walked out. Seriously, your daughter is the same age as his....how long before he.goes after her? Get out now, call CPS, save that little girl.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 8:10am

How is he still your fiancee? That's disgusting.

I couldn't bring myself to look at a man who is clearly fascinated with his daughter & her body & the "date night"...much less lay in a bed with him.

Yes, there are real issues between them, but the fact that you stay with him & that you're engaged to marry him indicates some serious issues with you as well...IMO.

I don't believe this is real.

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 8:57am

Had a friend like this who was constantly in denial about everything. Wouldn't believe ANYONE about truths she would rather not face, and there were plenty of them that were staring her right in the face.

Shichi, you yourself are sick in the head if you not only stay but say you refuse to believe it could happen, and that it's only on TV. You need help, and fast. I hope you get it.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 9:09am

Yep. I was reading it this morning & noticed the little snippets placed here & there.

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Submitted by Brady_Bunch_plu... on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 11:45am

Yep. Thought this same thing last night. This statement was the one that threw me...

"Thankfully, she is not allowed at our house. My concern is that their relationship is heating up again. If it was ever something in the first place."

Yeah... Ummmm. What?! Who would write that about a man (her husband) and his 15 year daughter? Maybe about a man and his mistress, but certainly not a 15 year old daughter.

We are absolutely being "crewed" on this one. And for those of you that believe that OP has been writing about this for too long for it to not be real, just a head's up, authors can work on their books, journals, whatever it may be, for years and years.

This story is not real.

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Submitted by sasha101 on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 11:59am

OP, if what you're saying is true then it has the signs of sexual abuse stamped all over it. His behaviour towards his teenage daughter is totally creepy and not normal,and kids who are being abused tend to behave in certain ways, including being overly sexual with adults, telling stories, attention seeking etc. It's also common for abusers to buy their victims off with expensive treats/gifts, whether they happen to be related to each other or not, and no normal father would compare the size of his teenage daughter's breasts to those of his sexual partner. The underwear thing is also wrong, as I cannot imagine any teenage girl making a habit of wandering around half naked in front of her male relatives, or that those male relatives would see it as normal behaviour, unless there was something sinister going on. The girl has probably been conditioned to see herself as a sexual plaything for her father/other males and if that is the case then none of her inappropriate behaviour is her fault. It sounds like she's tried to say something and no one has taken her seriously. It's time someone got to the bottom of this and it would be irresponsible of you to sit back and do nothing. In the UK we have social services who investigate concerns about child abuse, and you need to contact the equivalent authorities where you are, even if you have to do it anonymously. I understand you have your own daughter, and you are putting her at risk by having her anywhere near this man. Do the decent thing, report your suspicions to the authorities and take your daughter and get as far away from this wierdo as you can. Something is definitely not right here and your poor sd's life could be ruined forever. As a victim of abuse as a teen (not by any member of my famiy I hasten to add), I know the deep and devastating scars this leaves and how much it has affected my life. I know it's hard to accept that the person you love could be a child molester, but you have to face the fact that it seems very likely. It can and does happen, and through the therapy I had for my own abuse, I met several women who were raped/abused by their own fathers as kids so don't ever fool yourself that it only happens on TV