Let me just start from the beginning. When I met my husband I knew that he had children. They were living with their BM. My husband moved in with me and my two children. My oldest was 3 and my youngest was 1. About 6 to 7 months later, my husband's kids were taken from their mom, along with their 2 brothers that weren't my husband and they all came to live with us. A couple of months later, the 2 brothers were farmed out to their family members and it was just my husband's 2 kids, my 2 kids and my husband and I. We tried to come together as a family but whenever I would say something to his children, they'd tell their father and he would say well, Ryan said this happened or William said that happened. From then on, I told him, you don't have to worry about me saying anything to your kids and you don't say anything to mine. So we've pretty much lived in a divided household from then on. With many attempts to come together, our parenting styles are totally different. My husband doesn't make a big deal about education where as I do. My husband doesn't make a big deal about his children not taking care of their belongs where as I do. Right now, my two children are 6 and 8 and his two children are 12 and 14. We bought them all PSP's for Christmas last year and my two kids are the only ones who still has there's if that says anything. My 14 year old step son is repeating the 6th grade for the second time around and the grades both of step kids bring in are terrible. And htey never get reprimanded for any of it.I've never felt like a mother per se to them but I've always done my best to be nice to them. Recently, the 14 year old has been regularly hitting my 8 year old. It's really making me angry. I've talked to my husband about it but he doesn't say anything but "You guys have to learn to get a long..." or something like that. There is no reason that a 14 year old should be hitting an 8 year old. And when my kids get into hitting, I make sure to take care of it right away! I do not condone it. I'm very protective of my children and I just don't want the things that his children do to rub off on my kids because my husband won't rectify.My kids recently said to me, why do we always get in trouble for hitting and they don't. Only thing I could say is, Willie has to handle Ryan and William and I have to handle you two. I told my husband that if he can't do something about his son hitting mine, then I'll move out. I won't tolerate this teenager hitting my son.I guess what makes me the most angry is my husband just lets this stuff go on and won't do anything. Can't really be made at his kids because they're only doing what they're father lets them do. I'm really contemplating leaving my husband because this is having a great effect on me. Our parenting differences are so enormous that I don't even trust my husband to watch my kids alone, out of fear that his kids will continually hurt mine. I'm 3 months pregnant with my husband's child and I think that's one of the reasons that's making it so hard to leave. But I'll do what I need to do to keep my children happy and on the straight and narrow. I want to talk to him about it but like I've said we've been here so many times that I know it's not going to change. Because of working and schooling, I don't have many friends to talk to about it and the friends that I do have haven't been in this situation and can't really advise. Let me know if I'm overreating.