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Submitted by Last-Wife on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 4:44pm

Snow and ice caused school to get out early. Out of respect and safety, I called DH to tell him I would be home early. "I want you to know I really love you," he said. I was in a crowded hallway of kids who had just found out school was dismissing, so I told him I couldn't talk.

When I got home, he reached out to hug me. I let him. But hugs and sorry don't fix me that easy. I am hurt. I took a bubble bath and a nap. Know I'm ready to face him and see what he has to say for himself today...

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Submitted by soverysad on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 5:04pm

Let him apologize, but stand your ground. You will NOT be treated that way. EVER AGAIN.

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 5:18pm

Exactly. Listen to him, but remind him that actions speak louder than words. It will take more than sorry to fix this.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

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Submitted by Rainbow.Bright on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 5:44pm

I had to have a conversation with my DH early on about threatining someone and bringing an argument to the point of "divorce". From reading your prior posts it sounds like your DH is doing the same thing. 'I'm not getting my way, I'm mad, I'm going to hurt you with the only thing I can.'

I told him that I don't treaten, and I don't appreciate being threatened, and if our marriage is so worthless that he can lay it on the line to 'get his way', then we are done, because I can't trust a person that does that.

He hasn't threatened me since. It may sound petty to get that worked up about things like this, but when someone threatens the sanctity of my marriage, it hurts me to the core. I don't know if you feel the same but just hoping that it works out for you, and that you maybe give him a heads up how this makes you feel.

Good luck!

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 5:57pm

Good for you. And I don't think it's petty -- I COMPLETELY agree! What is PETTY is actually DOING that to someone you love just so you can hurt them during an argument.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

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Submitted by Snowflake on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 10:59pm

I used to pull that crap with my first dh. I would threaten to leave him... threaten to leave him... and then one day my grandmother gave me something to think about. She told me to stop that nonsense, because one day he is going to tell me to get the hell out.

He is bullying you. He is making threats to get his way. Well, unfortunately that one will always come back to smack you in the ass. And the cold reality that you will just walk out that door, leaving him with his kid from his ex hit him.

Because if he does this crap to you, and his kid is walking all over you, you don't think she is going to do that with someone else.

Tell him flat out that you will go on. Its a big world out there, and you are an incredible person.