Feel like I'm walking on eggsehlls around SD10 and I don't know how to handle it.
I mentioned in my last blog that I didn't want to sound mean when it comes to discipline. I have no problems telling BD6 and BS3 the rules, consequences and laying down the law, but for some reason when it comes to SD10, I feel like I have to walk on eggshells and it's driving me nuts. I'm trying to avoid making her miserable living here, but I know she already is. I know she would rather live with her psychotic mother, weird grandparents or her druggie aunt instead of living here in a stable loving home, but thats another story. Anyway, I m just so afraid of hurting her, or making her upset that I'm finding it difficult to discipline her. SD10 doesn't need a lot of it, but there are little things she does after I have told her not to or she gets this weird passive aggressive attitude that makes me want to strangle something.
Whenever I have to tell her to clean up a mess, dont do something, dont be rude etc.. she shuts down completely, goes into her room and just stares at the floor. I don't understand what the deal is. I'm not evil, but I expect children in my home to behave a certain way. She seems to be ultra sensitive and I don't know why. I've been her step mother for 7 years so this is not something new.
And lately, she won't even look at me and rarely speaks unless spoken to. It seems like she tries to avoid me like the plague, which is not easy in our little house. Things are just getting weird and I'm not sure how to handle any of it anymore.
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It sounds like to me she may
It sounds like to me she may have issues with dealing with her emotions and how to take critisicm? My SS does this, when you ask him to do something or if he gets in trouble for something or made to explain himself, his head sinks down and he stares into his lap, or turns away or starts walking away when you are talking to him. He has a really hard time controlling his emotions, he was diagnosed with ADD when he was much younger (not sure if that has anything to do with it). Have you or DH tried talking to her about this? Not when it is happening but when things are going good to find out what is going through her mind?
I agree. She's much too
I agree. She's much too sensitive and I have thought for a long time that this is the case. She doesn't handle emotions well at all..She cies very easily and does not take any type of advice or critisism well. DH has talked with her about how she handles her emotions. He has asked during a shut down and has also asked while she is super happy and he gets the same response each time-She shuts down completely, refuses to talk and just says I don't know while staring at the floor, wall or her fingers.