Christmas Scheduling Shenanigans.
The original C/O states that FDH get's SD7 from 10:30am Christmas day until 7pm Dec. 26. Every year, because BM1 cried about how IMPORTANT it was for her to have Christmas Eve every year because that's when her family celebrates. It's been nothing but trouble because every year it's been "1030 is soo early!! SD doesn't get to enjoy her gifts!! ect Ect." FDH reminds her that he wanted an every other year schedule to match SD5s, BM1 brought this mess on herself.
Well this year, because of her withholding visits all summer. FDH was awarded 1pm on Christmas day and then he gets to keep SD until December 31st at 7pm. It's not equal to the amount of parenting time missed, but it is all in one chunk, so he considered the quality over quantity. We'd be able to really feel like his time has been made up without totally messing up SDs regular schedule. Well then her lawyer played his smarmy game sending FDH's summons to the wrong address and BM1 was able to lie her face off without anyone to prove her wrong and suspended FDHs overnights.
BM and GBM have been insisting FDH's visitation is now 11am to 4pm. When we got the C/O mod in we saw that they were lying, and FDH called immediately to discuss the Christmas Schedule. GBM called back yesterday. He can pick up SD at 1pm and bring her home at 4pm. FDH called her on the C/O and she fired back about his contempt saying 1pm "but BM will give you her at noon if you'll agree to 4pm" FDH explained the wording of the C/O again, saying that he LEGALLY get's SD until 7pm - and added that as far as he's concerned he should be able to have SD from 9am-7pm every day until the 31st because all they did was suspend his overnights, not vacate his make-up time.
GBM is obviously against this, SD isn't allowed out after dusk 'per Dr.s orders', she must be home at 4pm. So FDH stops talking circles with her and agree's to 1pm as the pick-up, but that if she isn't holding a Doctors note, with a signature, written on office paper stating that SD can't walk from the car to the house after 4pm, he will be keeping her until 7. GBM starts screaming about the police and FDH says good-bye and hangs up. It's just ridiculous, This 4pm stuff. SD isn't even going home to her mother! She goes back to GBM's house where she sleeps on the couch.
I'm sure BM will try to 'call the police' and whatnot, she will be SOL without a C/O that states SD must be home by 4. I'm sure Sd will be filled with anxiety because they fill her head with shit about 'police-men hiding in mumma's bushes so you don't kidnap me daddy' and that's not entirely fair to her, but damn, can we have one holiday.? She doesn't sleep over anymore, she and FDH didn't even come to thanksgiving dinner because they played this 4pm game. SD5 BS4 and I went to dinner at my father's while FDH and SD7 stayed home and had whatever he cooked because she 'can't be out after dusk' anymore. FDH has a court date to vacate the order on Jan. 9th... it was the closest date he could get without a lawyer.
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SD is already at GBMs... BM
SD is already at GBMs... BM doesn't want us at her house so she brings SD to GBM's the night before. FDH HAS to deal with her. BM also claims to not have a cell phone, landline, or email address. The only contact FDH has with SD is his visitation, GBM doesn't answer, but does call back. Both of the numbers her had int he past for BM1 not go straight to voicemail. The only reason FDH knows BMs address is because he saw it on school papers.
He does contact the school himself. We stopped picking SD up from school on our EOWE Fridays because BM1 would rather keep the child home or dismiss her early than let FDH have his time. We've been to the police with the C/O when she is playing games and with holding visitation. But because FDH isn't the custodial parent we're told it's a probate issue, they will not enforce the C/O. When he asked if he could just keep her past his times they told him he would be charged with kidnapping so.. they're of no help. If she doesn't release the child nobody will make her. So we are not willfully allowing BM to change the schedule. She simply does it an we have no recourse other than a contempt, which we have done time and time again.
He has asked for 50/50 before, he has asked for C/O'd phonecalls before. He has tried to keep up with doctors himself, and with school. He has to bring birth certificates and C/O's to all of these places every single time. Because whenever BM see's that he has put himself on the info she changes the father to her BF or changes the doctor. He is at the point that he wants to be the custodial parent. SD is almost 8 and can not read, she is wearing a size 14/16 because her mother and GBM will not teach her good habits. Her behavior is/was so deplorable and immature that she was kept back, she did summer school and is currently repeating 1st grade. I'm sure the reading had some to do with it but they tend to push kids along at her age if it's just an academic issue.