be with us..And the SD is going to be with grandparents..And im excited as they are and have been planning something all week long..

"The future's uncertain and the end is always near." Jim Morrison

I think that since our BM is NCP that she kind of makes herself look silly to my SS's. They are getting to the point where they are seeing the facade that she puts on. I guess the way to explain it is that she likes to have them around when it helps her appear like "mother of the year" to strangers. For example when she goes to church on Sunday. Things like that. I don't think she is horrible to them, but form things they ahve said I know they would rather be at their own house with their own stuff. I guess I don't think it is my place to say. I like to be able to spend Mother's Day with my mom, it gives me time to do that.

she DID give birth to SD, BUT she didnt raise her, I did/do. Even though she is her mother, I am her mom...so I guess SD should do whatever makes her happy..... I think as SM's we should give in and encourage skids to visit their BM, except for Cru who's BM isnt even in the same country!

Even if this was our weekend, I would insist that SD visit/spend time with BM. Last week, we took SD out to buy her Mom a gift and card. It seems like it's the only right thing to do...

She lives there, so BM raises her. If I were the one raising her though, I'd really hope she would be with me on Mother's Day.

But I bet that won't stop my little angel from making me a sweet little something!

No big plans. We are hangin' out and BM isn't too excited about it... She's going to keep the girls Saturday night and have breakfast on Mother's Day morning with them and then drop them off.

I think we have make up soccer/baseball/softball games that day anyways.

Worked itself out and I like the little fuss going on.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

Will be with his BM-it is her weekend and she has decided to pick him up (so far-can't count on it until she actually shows up!!)on Friday and keep him until Sunday.

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and I have no problem with that. I do want FH to recognize me this mother's day for the first time ever.

We're going to visit my mom who lives 4 hours away Saturday and Sunday so, I'm kind of glad that the kids will be with BM. Just driving the three of them 30 miles can make me want to pull my hair out.

Hopefully with BM buts who knows last year she had to work so we ended up with them and plus she doesnt believe in Mothers Day she says it is like any other day she knows she is a good mom and that her kids appreciate her hmmmm I dont see how she never has her kids they are bounced around to everyone that will watch them! I will have BD's with me so plan on going to lunch.

we have them EW Fri-Mon am. I think BM would want them on Sun for mother's day, and I think and hope that is what they are doing. I am not their mother, they should be with their mom. I don't want a present or card or anything either, I think I would be embarassed, since I am not a mommy.

BM gets mothers day, DH fathers day. IMO it's the right thing for our situation. BM can be annoying at times & does things differently than we do, but she is a great mom & loves those kids & they love her.

I just reminded DH that when he picks them up today he NEEDS to find out if they have made her something in school, if her fiancee has plans to take them shopping ( which NEVER has happened, despite the kids thinking he would) and if no, they need to run to the store & get her a card & a plant.

Last year SS11 wanted to buy his mom a new purse for her birthday & told me that fiancee was taking them shopping...never happened so I two pretty disappointed skids that luckily I had cards on hand for them to give her.

I have my little man so DH is supposed to do something and the 3 of us will spend the day together.

The kids are BM's, not mine. My preference would be to get to see them for a little that weekend, but to have them spend the day with their mom. And this year, that's actually what's going to happen! :jawdrop: Total coincidence, though.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

I think that my SD should be with her BM. I don't care if she spends it with me or not. If she acknowledges me ... fine, however I don't expect it. Now, her dad might make her say something to me out of respect.