She keeps surprising me
So over the weekend BM calls and announcing she's getting married...really not even a week ago she was posting that she doesn't believe in love anymore (refer to early blog http://www.steptalk.org/node/206738). I guess her alcoholic meth head on again off again boyfriend is the winner of the soon to be hubby award.
When she told SD8 that she was getting married, BM asked SD "will you be my flower girl", SD answered "if I can come". BM said of course you will come I am your mother. SD knows the only way she can go is if BM's mom is there to supervise and if the wedding is on day that goes along with strict CO we have on BM.
The only reason BM is getting married is so she has a free place to live and someone to support her lazy ass.
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>>>The only reason BM is
>>>The only reason BM is getting married is so she has a free place to live and someone to support her lazy ass.
Sounds like true love to me
LOL, this is our BM's
LOL, this is our BM's definition of true love as well. It's the only way she will truly feel financially secure. She tried to get my husband to marry her when they were together but he didn't trust her.
That is our BM's definition
That is our BM's definition of true love, also. As long as she doesn't have to live alone and pay the bills by herself, it's love. Or at least, close enough.
She announced to all 3 skids
She announced to all 3 skids before she said a word to DH and then she only wanted to tell DH so that he could explain it to YSS7 that is hearing impaired and couldn't understand what she said over the phone. There was no date mentioned for the wedding and the crazy ass has been wearing a ring since last December off and on, but just now saying they are getting married. I'm telling y'all she's bat shit effing crazy.
I swear our BMs are 2 peas in
I swear our BMs are 2 peas in a pod. It makes me soo sick.
When BM told SD's about her wedding plans and date (which came and went with no marriage) She described SD's flower girl dresses to them and everything (also supervised visits) and told SD's that DH and I would have to bring them and we could stand in the back with the cops.
My goodness where do they get off telling these kids these things!
Sadly this phone call was the
Sadly this phone call was the longest and happiest one in a long time. She calls almost nightly but it's her saying "Hi, How are you (not waiting for a reply), well I love and miss you" I'm not joking at all, that is what she says every time. DH and I make fun of it silently together because we know word for word what she's gonna say on every call.
She can call every night? oh
She can call every night? oh I wouldn't be able to do that.
I have to monitor the phone calls b/c BM often goes off on SD8 she gets two phone days a week. I couldn't handle every night!
It's very sad that that was the happiest phone call in a while and she didn't even bring it up as an option with the adults first (or may not even happen). Our BM does the same "I'm getting a new house in a month so you can live with me" I honestly don't know what planet she lives on. I'm glad SD's don't buy into her crap anymore. I have watched them hurt so much over her.
But yeah for the most part the phone calls from BM are also predictable and the two questions she asks, she will wait for a response but not even pay attention to what was actually said and she rarely says I love you or I miss you anymore.
Sorry I don't mean to reply with so much stuff but I really feel like I can relate to your situation! It really sucks and I feel really bad for your Skids. At least you and DH can keep them safe from other forms of abuse. I am definitely thankful for that one.
Post away girl, it doesn't
Post away girl, it doesn't bother me one bit. I am thankfully to have found someone that I can relate with. We have never gotten anything written up about phone calls, but wish we could get her to stop promising YSS that they will be together again everyday soon, because that shit will not happen ever if I have anything to do with it. DH and I try to do anything we can for skids and my BS, it's hard and sometimes emotionally but they didn't ask for a lazy crazy alcoholic drug head momma.
The infamous empty
The infamous empty promises!
With being on supervised visits, the supervised party isn't supposed to promise anything or tell the kids of any plans but that doesn't stop them huh!
The judge added the phone time in the CO when he granted the supervised visits. I had to start monitoring them, not only for BM going off on SD but if BM even thought DH was in the room, She was going off on him while on the phone with the kids. I would have to redirect her and if she was still spouting off I would have to end the call and have the kids call her back. It got so bad, SD's counselor said if she legally could come out here during the phone time she would monitor them herself (she can't legally b/c she's off the clock)
YSS is her favorite right? YSD is BM's favorite and I'm almost positive that if we gave her to BM, we would never hear from BM again! BM used to say the same stuff to her all the time. Not Happening!
YSS is her miracle baby as
YSS is her miracle baby as she likes to call him, because he was born at 26 weeks, had 3 brain bleeds, 12 blood transfusions and was in NICU for 3 months. SD is her princess and she thinks her mini me. Then there is OSS and he sadly has been left behind I think, he stays to himself so much and acts about 3 to 4 years younger than he really is, DH and I are looking into therapy for him.
Oh I thought you had posted
Oh I thought you had posted that YSS was the favorite.. just wasn't sure. Was she on drugs while pregnant with him? I don't want to assume, I know sometimes this stuff just happens but wow! Is BM one of those who uses all of that to make people feel sorry for her? BM here uses would be SS4 to try to get people to feel sorry for her but she never wanted him either.
BM thinks YSD is her mini me.. she wishes. SD8 looks just like her, YSD6 looks nothing like her, SD8 was left behind before BM even had her, The crazy bitch stabbed herself in the stomach while pregnant.
I hope you can find a good therapist for OSS, we had to go through a few for SD8 before we found one SD liked and now she has 3 that work as a team. I put YSD in therapy as well but she didn't really need it at the time so we have hers on hold for now.
OMG why would any stabbed
OMG why would any stabbed themselves!?!?!? Apparently she got really sick when she was pregnant with YSS and it sent her into labor, but OSS has pituitary dwarfism and we have to give him growth hormone injections once a night. I find it a little funny that 2 out of the 3 kids there's something wrong and she is now a recovering alcoholic and drug user (supposedly), but she never did anything when she was married to DH or pregnant. I really don't know and hate to think she really did cause the boys issues.
She's that crazy. That was
She's that crazy. That was the first time she left their house in a white coat to a padded room. then DH had to take time off work to watch her.
I would hate to think that too and sorry to put that in your head if it wasn't already there. I have a friend with a type of dwarfism. I'm not sure which type and don't know what causes it. YSD6 is still on breathing treatments daily b/c while pg with her, BM amped up her cigarettes to about 3 packs a day. Not nearly as bad as what you are going through with your boys. BM openly used and drank with all 3 pregnancies. SD's got fairly lucky. Would be SS did not.