He is moved in temporarily with our kids, sleeping on their couch at their request (near demand). He will be renting a house a few blocks over from them as of 04/01/2014. Apparently he signed papers on it yesterday.

The reason for sleeping on my couch was apparently the boys (DH and XH) had a few too many beers and he couldn’t drive to leave and go to a hotel. DH offered him the pull out couch and he accepted. DH has been advised to never do that again. And when posed with “How would you feel if I allowed BM to sleep on the couch?” completely understood why.

I get that my XH and I are more cordial that most divorced couples and it’s because WE avoid each other. Any communication is about the kids and frankly they are grown so it’s up to them to do the communicating now. So we are at the stage of only having to do friendly sounding greetings in passing if we happen to be in the same place at the same time. This does not equate to sleep overs in my book.

When I talked to DH and XH Sunday morning the story came out that he is ending his relationship with SM. He is miserable and he is simply wants out. Apparently he told SM this before leaving their house.

They have been together for 14 years and have been engaged for 12 but they never legally married. No, he did not take advantage of her for all these years. He makes twice what she does. The house is paid off and he just bought her a new car. From what I gather, he feels like a wallet and no matter how fat the wallet is, it’s just not fat enough. Luckily for him there is no ‘common law marriage’ in Florida.

From what he has told the kids he is walking away with his sentimental items, his car and the clothes on his back. Leaving her the house, the car he just bought her, all furniture, appliances, the money in their joint bank accounts etc.

I can utterly understand someone not wanting to stay in a miserable situation, but part of me is going WTF because this man fought me tooth and nail during our divorce over EVERYTHING, literally down to the matching linens!