I thought my son was kidding when he mentioned that SD15 was now a bleach blonde. I finally saw it on Facebook this morning and can not believe BM let her do this and probably paid for it. Holy Cow....She has very dark brown beautiful hair. At least she did. What is next that BM is going to let her do. BM is a brunetter that is very blonde, but even she is not this bleach blonde. BM has had the breast augmentation so I am starting to wonder if that is next. I know SD wants tattoos and piercing. They already did the cartilidge at the top of the ear for her 15th birthday.

My SD15 has a reputation already and now this for the first day of school today. I can't wait until my friends around town start giving me their opinions on this one.

With the black eyebrows and the almost white hair, she looks ridiculous and very hard. It is so hard to watch this girl decline. She was sweet and beautiful before all this drama. Always manipulative, but generally a good kid. Now she is becoming someone I would never let my son even be friends with.

I feel terrible for all of this. If we had never married and moved in together, maybe DH would still have a relationship with her. Then maybe BM would have not PAS'd the kid and may have listened to DH about setting limits with this kid. DH is frustrated but, he can't discuss it at all or he gets mad and it seems to be directed at me. I finally told him during the conversation to just come out and say it that you blame me. He won't but, boy he skirted around it enough that I know that is what he thinks.

I really would like a do-over. It is just getting too damn hard. Now SS13 wants to live here and that case has started. BM has said she will let him go, but can't decide when, wants to let the court case play out. Not sure what the hell that means. DH won't get assertive at all with her, he just wants the lawyers to handle it. In the meantime, school has started today and now with the inconsistency, we will have all the same problems with SS and schoolwork. Everyother week he does no homework. So of course that trickles down to grades that are all over the place. I do not do anything with SS and the schoolwork. So it is not a problem for me personally, it is just sad to watch what could be straight A's, not be because BM is inconsistent.

BIL called this week and asked to come for a visit. Told DH I wanted an apology for the drama that they caused in Vegas. Also, asked to take down all the Facebook pics that they put up from the visit with SD15. You would have to read the blogs on this mess. He refused to do either telling DH that if he does that what is the next thing I will demand. DH said I guess it is not a good time. Hell no, it is not. Until those pics are down and he apologizes for laughing about the entire situation with SD and BM, he is not welcome here. DH is upset at me. I don't care. His family needs to learn boundaries. None of them are welcome since they all are involved in this last mess.

I am angry at DH for not being more assertive with the family, but I can't control him or them. But, I can control who I let come into my life and right now they are not. We show others how to treat us and I will not allow them to treat me that way.