Quick update: SD has mono and has been out of school for awhile. No big deal for us, since she is not in our household and I could care less about the kid. We have full custody of SS14 and BM only has seen him a few times for a dinner always on a friday night since he turned 14 in July. Well, SD who has nothing to do with DH has been texting him pity me texts about being exhausted. Great fun, buy into it whatever, again not my problem.

I am mom for SS and as disengaged as I was, I am pretty much fully engaged now. Still don't do homework or school stuff with him, but I am going to belt advancements for Karate now and stuff like that. I am the one home everyday to hear how his day went since I work out of the house.

BM sent a text a couple days ago to SS to go to dinner tonight. He decided to go last night and I said it should wait a week since SD had mono and I didn't want him exposed to it. So you understand, I have some fears about mono that are completely warranted. To be brief, I got it as a senior and was run down, but my parents just thought I was being a lazy teen sleeping all the time. By the time, they had my blood drawn I was better, but it had caused some damage. The virus attacked my eyes and my hearing. I got a virus in my eyes and until I had a car accident we didn't get it checked out. I was on meds to clear that up for awhile and then ultimately the damage was done and I have bllod vessels that have expanded into my corneas which is permanent damage that has to be watched forever. My hearing suffered a 30% loss in my right ear from my last physical. All of this was attributed to the mono virus staying in my system. I was so run down that year that I barely caught up with homework.

My SS is getting all A's and B's since we have him full time. He is doing great. I don't want anything to jeopardize that. Also, BS17 contracted mono when he was 5 years old from his father. My late husband was a transplant patient and basically the most suppressed immune system so if there was something he was exposed to he got it and passed it along to BS. At the same time BS got the mono, DH had to be hospitalized for a massive infection. Making me leave BS with family while he was really sick. Thankfully, kids bounce back and within a week he was fine and no future problems.

Apparently BM, sent a text this morning that SD is cleared to go back to school on Monday and BM and the SD Boyfriend all tested negative and she says she wants to see SS. DH came to me and said he is going to let him go. My answer was no, they can wait a week. She hasn't seen him in a month, what is the rush. I would feel better and we know he would not be exposed. But, no, rather than validate an obviously touch subject, he decides to tell me I am being difficult and just want to make this more drama.

He yelled at me and walked away. I seriously lost it after that on him. Telling him he invalidated my feeling and wants to make this about the usual drama about his daughter and her mom. I could give a rat's ass about that I told him. I am concerned for our household. I do not want him exposed since he is so skinny and has no energy now that being exposed to mono would be horrible for him and he would never catch up.

I am so angry right now. He is looking for research on it and says she just can not kiss him...Great! That will solve the problem. You have now pushed your wife over the edge because a woman who has made zero effort with her son wants to see him and you jump to let her despite the fact that your wife has misgivings and is asking you to wait a week. I walked back into the room after that and said fine, plan on taking off of work the amount of time that either boy is sick if they get this....

I know it is a long shot of them getting it, but honestly why take the chance. Everytime DH mocks me for my hearing now, I am going to want to slug him....I really need to go play some golf now....

I am sure there are some on here who will tell me that I am wrong on my facts about the disease. I don't care. DH's own brother lost a year of college from it. I know what I went through with countless eye doctors trying to figure out why I could not look into bright light and why a normally healthy teenager suddenly can't hear well out of her right ear overnight.

I swear if he lets him go, I will never forget this one....You want me to be this kids mother, but when I do try to protect him, I am just trying to make problems....