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Submitted by ishouldrun on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 11:00am

Just happened to be in the same room when a miracle occurred, SS16 called DH.  Conversations between DH and SS usually occur out of anyone's listening range and now I know why.  If I hadn't known it was SS16 on the phone I would've sworn that DH was talking to another woman.  You know that syrup sweet tone of voice that is common in budding romances??  Ewww. . . . I know that DH"s dad has never talked to him in this tone of voice and just the sickly sweet comments "I'm soooooooo glad you called"  After I threw up in my mouth a little bit I left the room but it got me thinking DH doesn't use this tone of voice and manner of speaking with anyone else and as much as he chases this kid around to spend time with him, sulks when the skid won't return calls or texts on a phone he pays for, it's more like DH is trying to date his kid.  I'm thinking of taping the next phone call and playing it back for him so he can hear what he sounds like.  I really can't stress enough how over-the-top bad it was.  The only consolation is knowing that Skid won't be calling for much longer once he gets the next big ticket item he has his eye on.  Has anyone else dealt with this?  What did you/would you do?

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notsobad's picture

Submitted by notsobad on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 11:24am

Have these men ever thought that one of the reasons their kids never call is because of the sappy tone? 

I know I wouldn’t want to talk to someone who sounds so creepy. 

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Submitted by queensway on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 11:30am

It is quite sickening to hear how they pick and choose who they talk to like that. It is a switch in their brain that goes off. If only we had a switch to block out this annoying Daddy voice we wouldn't have to get sick every time we hear it. GROSS

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Submitted by Teas83 on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 12:02pm

My husband does the same thing when he talks to SD9. It's this stupid, surgary sweet, syrupy voice. Everything he says is followed up with, "Is that okay, sweetie?" or "Are you okay with that?" to make sure that what he said hasn't offended her in some way. She'll ask for a glass of water and I'll tell her she can get it herself (because that's what I do with DD5). She'll glance at my husband with a hurt look on her face, so he sugar coats it with, "You can do it by yourself, okay sweetie? You're a big girl, right? Here, I'll remind you where the glasses are. See, you just go to the fridge and you know which buttons to push to get water, okay? Right? Is that okay?"

I'm surprised he still doesn't offer to wipe her nose or her ass in the same stupid voice.

He talks to her completely differently than he talks to DD5 or DD2. We treat them like normal people. 

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Submitted by Merry on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 2:04pm

Gawd. I know exactly the tone. DH does this too, and much more with SS than with SD. He sees SD as a functioning adult (she is), and SS still struggling (he is, but by golly he's held a steady job with benefits for more than a year now). .

ishouldrun's picture

Submitted by ishouldrun on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 2:36pm

Maybe I should talk to DH in a witty, bitty, baby voice - no better not I can't keep a straight face.

 

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Submitted by blayze on Thu, 05/03/2018 - 5:52pm

On the flip side...ex was talking to his then 11 y/o daughter on the phone while we had people over... after he was off the phone our company commented that ex was talking to his mother! Imagine that... a grown a$$ man answering to his child like she was the parent. Not sure which is worse. These dads *tsk tsk