My co-worker's ("A") fiance just found out that he has a 2 year old son with an ex who moved to NC. They are flying there next weekend to meet the boy for the first time. A's concern is the ex stalking her FB page, which wasn't private until yesterday.

"A" and her fiance were invited to Florida for their friend's 30th birthday in September. The expenses are paid except for plane tickets because they are guests. A also has Southwest benefits and she makes good money. A posted on FB how she can't wait, blah blah. The fiance gets a long-winded message from ex about "he's so selfish for spending money to go to FL instead of going to NC the next week for boy2's third birthday". 

I told A "Wait, hold the phone. She didn't tell fiance about his son for over 2 years and now she's concerned about his birthday being spent with dad 5 months in advance?? He's going to be 3 he doesn't care about specific dates!" A said the BM was using the typical "we" and "us" messages to include her grimy self in fiance's relationship with his son. The BM even asked "how do you have the money go to FL?" Um, not your business, wench! Also, the BM constantly Skype's fiance and floods his inbox with texts. I told A to make sure communication is defined in the CO.

I told A a little bit about my story and said it's only getting worse. The fiance wants to be "dad" to his son, and they have CS established, but no visitation. They are flying to see the boy next week so that they can show the judge that he will deserve parental rights and is getting to know his son.

A is already flustered and I told her to separate herself as much as possible! It will be frustrating, but that she musn't involve herself and let herself be stressed like I did. A is a single mom so she said she's trying to understand this BM. I told her that if she isn't like that BM, she'll never understand the crazy.